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Nine Thousand Visits to This Blog in Its Three Weeks of Existence

Author: Susan Cain

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When I started this blog, I assumed that for the first few months, a trickle of family and friends would read it, and that would be that. This has been a soft launch, with no marketing or search engine optimization whatsoever.

So I am thrilled to share that the blog has received almost nine thousand visits in just three weeks of posting! The response exceeds my wildest dreams. I’ve received personal letters from so many of you, some so heartfelt that they brought tears to my eyes.  THANK YOU, incredible readers, for taking the time to share your feelings and experiences with me.

And a special THANKS to all who sent readers this way: Guy Kawasaki, Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project, Linda Stone, Adam McHugh of the Introverted Church, and many more.

The most common sentiment expressed in your letters: “I thought I was the only one who felt this way!” But you’re not; far from it.

This is only the beginning. This website is in its embryonic stages. You have the opportunity to shape and influence it.  Please share your ideas! I read every single letter you send, and every comment you post, and I’m all ears.  What topics do you want to see covered?  What features would you like the site to have?

For example, one idea I have is to create discussion groups, so that you can all talk to each other about specific topics of interest, such as work/career; parenting introverted kids; public speaking; introvert-extrovert relationships, and so on.

Also, a question: for those of you who subscribe to the blog, do you like getting e-mail updates every time there’s a new post, or would you prefer more periodic updates (every week, say)?

What else should we be thinking about and doing?

As you contemplate the answer to this question, please help spread the word to your friends/family/colleagues — send them a link to THANK YOU!


  1. mummojo on 15.02.2011 at 09:59 (Reply)

    What can I say except “congratulations” - that is a massive achievement! You’ve obviously tapped a nerve. I have really enjoyed reading your posts so far, and am impressed that you’ve been posting so regularly too. I’ll look forward to what’s in store, and will come back to you with any thoughts in answer to your question. Thanks for speaking up for introverts everywhere.

  2. jorge on 15.02.2011 at 10:04 (Reply)

    I prefer updates every time there´s a new one…
    Thanks Susan
    Jorge - CHILE

  3. Maureen Soules, CID, IIDA on 15.02.2011 at 10:16 (Reply)

    Susan, I am so glad I found you! I’ve known for a long time that I’m a classic introvert, and it’s been my quest to educate people that introversion is not the same as shyness; I think that is one of the biggest misconceptions I deal with. For instance, I have no problem with public speaking, or giving large presentations; it’s the cocktail hour afterwards where I want to run and hide! I would rather stay home and knit than go to a New Years Eve party…

    Anyway, I’m going to follow your site very closely! I’m just starting my graduate degree in Interior Design, and my research topic is going to be related to the impact of the open office environment and it’s effect on the introverted employee. As workstations get smaller, and privacy is lost, how does this impact the need for introverts to focus and reflect while in the office? I’m sure it’s going to be very interesting to research this, and maybe we can collaborate in the future!

    Thanks for getting this started, and good luck to you!

  4. Susan on 15.02.2011 at 10:29 (Reply)

    Thanks, everyone! And Maureen, I can definitely help you with your research. I write about this a LOT in my book — it’s one of my pet peeves. I actually found in my research that open offices have many negative impacts on extroverted employees’ productivity, creativity, mental and physical health as well. It’s not just the introverts who suffer, though it’s probably worst for them.

  5. isabellagarden on 15.02.2011 at 10:32 (Reply)

    I’d prefer to get an e-mail update every time there’s a new posting. For potential topics, what about famous introverted historical figures and their contributions?

  6. Melissa on 15.02.2011 at 10:52 (Reply)

    Susan-I would be very interested in a subgroup that discusses parenting introverted children. Thanks for bringing up the possibility. Also, I work for a Danish company in an “open environment” so perhaps I could assist as a “research subject” on that one:)

  7. Elizabeth on 15.02.2011 at 11:19 (Reply)

    Thanks, Susan, for your voice and vision!

  8. Kathy on 15.02.2011 at 11:44 (Reply)

    Love the emails I’ve been getting. So good to see that I’m not the only introvert out there!!! I call myself an introvert with extraverted tendencies and would love to find more like minded individuals. I’m also married to an introvert and have 2 extraverted children, we’d love tips on child rearing to extraverts from an introverts perspective.

  9. Kerry on 15.02.2011 at 14:58 (Reply)

    Susan, I am so glad to hear that the website is doing well. I have been hooked since I saw it referenced on Gretchen’s site a few weeks ago. Last week I wrote a post about introversion and “Small life” living and it garnered a great response for my small blog - clearly there is a large population of quiet people out there who appreciate your validation of our personalities.

    Personally, I would enjoy some interviews or guests posts by “everyday introverts.” It is wonderful to hear about wildly successful people who also happen to be quiet people, but it would be nice to hear from individuals who are making their introverted personalities work for them on a small scale.

  10. Joe BW Smith on 15.02.2011 at 15:02 (Reply)

    I pick up this blog in my reader. I found out about it from Adam McHugh several weeks ago, and it’s become a regular read. I pick it up in my Google reader, where I’m more likely to read it. You tend to take up more of a sociological perspective of introversion than Adam, who tends to work more with spirituality and vocation, or others who work with psychological aspects or personal development. You’re presenting a broader package, and you give easy to read and thought-provoking posts. I’ve re-tweeted several posts. Keep up the good work, and congratulations!

  11. Luna on 15.02.2011 at 17:12 (Reply)

    Your website is beautifully designed and very insightful. I realized by reading through your “quiz” that I am a true introvert at heart. I have always been confused by my ability to breeze through social engagements, speak publicly easily (though I don’t enjoy it) ,entertain at my home well and really enjoy teaching. The fact that my preferences unfailingly lean towards solitary activities or those that involve only my husband, son or close friends confused me. I dread family get togethers or parties though I am able to put on a good party face I am so happy to get into my own space again, house guests are a nightmare to me, just too much talking, noise and energy draining and again though I am told how wonderful a hostess I am when house guests leave I am completely drained. The most I can handle is 3 days. I am amazed at people who have guests for weeks and love it. I have felt so mean, seeing all these post well I just see people are all different, they all have different needs and some people just have greater socializing needs than others. Congratulations on your success, it seems you have struck a chord with many of us, thank you.

  12. Erica on 15.02.2011 at 17:53 (Reply)

    I,too, am finding your blog a source of strength and reflection. You help me remember to be true to how I am and how I work, using those qualities as strengths. I am an introvert doing an extrovert’s job: teaching. I love teaching, but I require quiet and stillness when I get home from the day. My husband knows not to even start dinner too soon; the pots and pans banging can be too much until I’ve calmed down.

    I worry about my profession and myself when I choose to have children and therefore have less quiet at home. I’d love reflections on balancing my introverted needs with my children’s needs.

  13. lori on 15.02.2011 at 19:57 (Reply)

    Congrats! Gretchen Rubin’s mention of you in her blog probably helped. I am an extravert and am a certified facilitator of the MBTI Steps 1 and 2 … I signed on to your blog to better understand introversion because to me the world can seem a lonely place with so many people needing alone time!! I want more extraverts : )

  14. Susan on 15.02.2011 at 21:03 (Reply)

    Thank you, everyone! These comments mean the world to me. And I appreciate all your suggestions, and will act on them.

    @Erica, a close “mom-friend” of mine is like you, and a professor, and she makes it work by giving herself quiet-time after her son goes to bed every night at seven. Will post more about this some time, but that was a quick-reflex reaction for now!

  15. SA Huggins on 15.02.2011 at 21:35 (Reply)

    Only 9,000. You just wait. I’m an introvert, and once I found your site, I added it to my blogroll. I recall a saying that went “find something you love, and find someone to pay you to do it.” Well, I realize how much I like writing (oh…the solitude), and that’s what I’m going to do. It fits my personality so much more than what I spend most of my time doing. I’m loving your site. Can’t wait for the book.

  16. Michelle on 16.02.2011 at 06:33 (Reply)

    Congratulations! I stumbled over here thanks to Gretchen Rubin’s blog. I have to echo everyone’s sentiment regarding receiving daily posts. I also think some sort of discussion groups would be a neat idea!

  17. Doug on 16.02.2011 at 08:43 (Reply)

    Congratulations — and I’m jealous (in a good way!), hoping my new blog (The Betterment Blog: reaches your success soon, too!

  18. Doug on 16.02.2011 at 08:43 (Reply)

    Congratulations — and I’m jealous (in a good way!), hoping my new blog (The Betterment Blog: ) reaches your success soon, too!

  19. Susan on 16.02.2011 at 13:39 (Reply)

    Again, thank you everyone so much for the support and feedback!

    @Doug, congrats on your new blog — I’m going to check it out!

    @Lori, How interesting. Can you tell us more about how introverts’ need for alone time makes the world a lonely place? Does it feel hurtful when introverts go off on their own, or simply not as much fun, or something else entirely…? We are all ears.

  20. Rachel on 16.02.2011 at 19:53 (Reply)

    I just discovered this blog, and I’m enjoying it very much. I would be interested in reading about dating for introverts. In my observation, being an introvert is no bar to having a good marriage, but it does make it difficult to meet compatible partners (who may also be introverts) or start new relationships. There is a parallel in the realm of friendship: I find that my long-standing friendships wear well, even if both of us are classic introverts, but it can be difficult to build friendships with new acquaintances. It often seems to me that introverts struggle greatly with the early stages of relationships, friendly or romantic; once over the hump of initial challenge, though, they do very well. Does this match others’ experiences? I am also interested in reading more about introverts and extroverts in school and in the workplace.

  21. Judy on 17.02.2011 at 08:37 (Reply)

    Yep, I am another Gretchen Rubin fan. She only recommends THE BEST new blogs out there. I admire her entrepeneurial spirit…and now YOURS. Contests, Susan,

  22. Judy on 17.02.2011 at 08:38 (Reply)

    Yep, I am another Gretchen Rubin fan. She only recommends THE BEST new blogs out there. I admire her entrepeneurial spirit…and now YOURS. Congrats, Susan!

  23. Heather on 28.02.2011 at 21:48 (Reply)

    I am so happy to have found your blog, it really resonates with me. One topic I would be particularly interested in is parenting an extroverted child (as an introvert). I look forward to continued insights and validation. Keep up the good work.

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Susan Cain is the author of the forthcoming book, "QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" (Crown in the U.S., Viking/Penguin in the U.K., 2012). She lives on the banks of the Hudson River in an 1822 captain's cottage with her beloved husband, sons, and magnolia trees. Read More.
twelve things I believe

1. There's a word for "people who are in their heads too much”: thinkers.

2. Lovingkindness is essential, gregariousness is optional.

3. Introverts in 2010 are where women were circa 1963, when Betty Friedan published The Feminine Mystique. Women’s status has changed radically since then, and so will that of quiet, sensitive, cerebral types in the decades to come.

4. The democratization and fragmentation of media play to introverts’ strengths. Influence no longer depends on commanding the masses or controlling the levers to power. Now it’s enough to speak authentically. If even a tiny fraction of people hear you, that’s still a lot of humans.

5. Texting is popular because in an overly extroverted society, everyone craves asynchronyous, non-F2F communication.

6. We teach kids in group classrooms not because this is the best way to learn but because it’s cost-efficient, and what else would we do with the children while all the grown-ups are at work? If your child prefers to work autonomously and socialize one-on-one, there’s nothing wrong with her; she just happens not to fit the model.

7. The secret to finding work you love is to choose a profession that’s consonant with your personality.

8. The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some it’s a Broadway spotlight or a sun-drenched beach. For others, a lamplit desk.

9. Rule of thumb for networking events: one new honest-to-goodness relationship is worth ten fistfuls of business cards.

10. The world needs both risk-takers and care-takers, but we need our care-takers more than ever.

11. The universal longing for heaven is not about immortality so much as the wish for a world in which everyone is always kind.

12. “In a gentle way, you can shake the world.” – Gandhi