1. One of my all-time favorite books is Jonathan Haidt’s The Happiness Hypothesis, which explores how the mind works and what makes life worthwhile. Some of the chapters are available on Haidt’s website for free! Here they are.
2. This is a very smart article on how to become a better conversationalist.
3. Have you heard about The Edge’s annual question (at www.edge.org), which every year asks a group of world-class scientists and thinkers to answer a single thought-provoking question? Last year’s question was “How is the Internet Changing the Way You Think?” My favorite was the question from the year before that: “What Will Change Everything“?
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I’m really enjoying this new series. Last week I absolutely adored the article on “nice girls” and passed it around to friends. This week I can’t wait to dive into the conversationalist article.
And at the risk of sounding like a groupie, I also was obsessed with The Happiness Hypothesis when I read it. I think that in another universe we’re best friends who spend weekends drinking tea and discussing positive psychology books and TED talks…
Random question: Have you ever shared your MBTI here? I’ve been curious since I started following you about the last three letters. Is that something you’re interested in sharing?
How funny, Catherine! And I hope to meet you in person some time. Maybe when I go on book tour…did you already tell me where you live? Pardon me, if so — two little kids, therefore no sleep, therefore no brain.
I actually have shared my MBTI — I’m an INFP. (though very close to the J side. I’m a ridiculously high scorer on the N and F though.) You?
I just moved to Raleigh, and I’d definitely come out for the book tour if you come somewhere close.
I’m an INFJ, but often feel more like a P (I dread paperwork, so I often feel scattered in that arena). I’m extremely high on the F scale, but I’m not sure about the N… I’m unquestionably an N, but I’m just not sure how strong.
Thanks for sharing! I’m not surprised we share some characteristics, considering I agree with so many of your points and interests.
Susan, This isn’t on post topic but more about everything you’ve chosen to post about since you started here. I want to thank you. Thank you a million times over. I know you know how deeply important “seeing” introversion is to me. You being here just gives me more back up. And it’s a good feeling to know that there are others that have “got your back” so to speak. As little as four years ago I received nothing but rolling eyes and far off stares as soon as the word introvert slipped passed my lips. It was as if that word alone invalidated every other part of my contribution to solutions or insights on how to see children, truly see them. So now if I can’t muster up the right words and even when I can I will surely be directing them to you, your book and this blog. See how far things have come? Thank you again!
Wow! Thank YOU for sharing that, Starthrower
Susan, your blog seems to attract us INFPs from all over the world!
More on topic, I disliked article #2 on how to become a better conversationalist. The outline is ok, in fact the 8 points seem worth keeping in mind. But reading through all the explanations and examples it sounds way too manipulative and ‘fake’ and just plain wrong.
The Happiness Hypothesis, on the other hand, is a gem! Thank you
Another INFP chiming in - Susan, I’ve been loving your blog since I found it linked from Gretchen’s blog earlier this month. I’m very strongly introverted, and have had a difficult time for several years trying to explain to close friends that, while I appreciate their offer to help me relax by planning a busy vacation together, it simply won’t be as much help as they think.
The Happiness Hypothesis looks interesting - I will have to check the local library for a copy!
Following up an old comment thread:
Susan - I saw your TED talk a few minutes ago and immediately recognized a fellow INFP from your expansive thoughts and quiet emotional outreach. I read your book earlier this year and greatly enjoyed both the book and the talk. I am an INFP man working in a corporate role, and being an INFP, I have always been feeling as if I am a disabled person playing in a “rowdie” basketball game with my super athlete colleagues. Your book has boosted a sense of quiet self-confidence and self-comfort in me that helps me persist in the game. I have always longed to be an author but am ever too buried under my day job and the (very enjoyable!) responsibility of raising two kids, to find any time to write. It is encouraging to see that someone (you) has managed to overcome a similar situation and become the author that you always wanted to be. Hopefully I will be able to do it some day too! Thanks for your book! It is a deeply meaningful contribution to society.
Hi Susan, I bought and read your book and look forward to reading it again. I found out I was INTP about a year ago; I think I have been living in an unaware state of my temperament most of my life, feeling like an outsider trying to find place. Thank you for your book