Adam McHugh, author of the book Introverts in the Church, is running a wonderful series on his blog called “Introverted Parenting Week.” Check it out here. Many of the posts have covered the challenges of being an introverted parent. I’ll be guest-posting tomorrow, offering ten tips for parenting introverted children.
(And I’ll be posting here in the future on Adam’s groundbreaking work on introverts and religion.)
Would love to hear your thoughts.
Being a mother has been for me one of the happiest experiences of my life. I actively cherish every moment with my son and happily gave up a career I loved to stay at home to raise him. I have no regrets and now that he is a teenager am so thankful for all that time we spent together. I know this sounds horrid but the only difficult part I found was having to interact with other parents. When your children are young their social circle is in many ways added to yours. I found that very challenging. My son is an only and I wanted him to engage with other children yet I found organizing the play dates and getting together with other parents and their children very draining,actually the children I was fine with it was having to engage with the parents I found hard. My son showed early on a preference for quiet activities and not too much socialization and we loved nothing more than to spend the day going to a museum, having a picnic, spending the day at the pond or in the woods and if my husband could join us all the better. Now that he is older his social life does require my assistance, though his friends are frequently at our home and often wander into the kitchen to chat with me or my husband. We still have fun together I sometimes miss our days at the pond frog and turtle watching but my consolation is I no longer have to ‘network’ with parents.
I don’t think that sounds terrible! I am not a parent, but the work I do and have done involves both parents and children. As wonderful as the parents are and have been, I have times where I, too, find interactions with the little ones so much more effortless. So, I think I understand what you’re saying.
There is a wonderful picture book called “Bear by Himself” by Geoffrey Hayes that my whole family — husband, two sons, me — loved when the boys were little. It’s about a bear that sometimes likes to be by himself to “sing his own songs and think his own thoughts”. It’s charming and a balm to introverted parents and children alike.
I read Adam McHugh’s book last year and thought it was really wonderful. I strongly recommend it for any introverted American Christian, especially those actively going into ministry, and for any pastor, whether introverted or not.