Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to.


Excerpt from “Quiet” | Chapter: “Wonderland”

“Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to. Stay home on New Year’s Eve if that’s what makes you happy. Skip the committee meeting. Cross the street to avoid making aimless chitchat with random acquaintances. Read. Cook. Run. Write a story. Make a deal with yourself that you’ll attend a set number of social events in exchange for not feeling guilty when you beg off.”




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  1. Hannah K on 22.01.2014 at 16:32 (Reply)

    It took me a long time in my life for me to realize this was OK. I felt so guilty every time I’d choose to stay home reading instead of hanging out with someone. Now that I’ve come to terms with my introversion, I can actually enjoy my free time :-)

  2. Emma Wilson on 26.01.2014 at 14:07 (Reply)

    My instincts are often to avoid speaking to people, but I find when I push myself to do so I feel energised and I enjoy myself. I do give myself permission to leave the party/finish the conversation when I need to.

  3. veronica on 27.01.2014 at 14:50 (Reply)

    Im still struggling with this. I enjoy staying at home reading or watching movies, maybe have a friend over for dinner and conversation but it seems if I dont go party and come back home the next day, I’m wasting my life away?

  4. Stella on 28.01.2014 at 19:10 (Reply)

    Wonderful quote. With my workmates all going on fancy holidays soon,its hard to explain why I’d rather stay home,read and watch movies and save money in the process.Fun for me is sometimes doing ‘nothing’.

  5. Elizabeth on 07.02.2014 at 23:09 (Reply)

    Susan, I so wish you would write more and more often! Not that I’m urging you to do something you don’t want to do, of course. Your book was the best non-fiction I’ve read, maybe ever.

  6. Pratikshya Mishra on 16.02.2014 at 08:36 (Reply)

    i discovered this website today and I’m so glad I did…..i had never expected that a whole website can exist somewhere in cyberspace for introverts solely….and thank you for the above motivating paragraph…:)

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