In honor of Arianna Huffington’s marvelous book THRIVE, I want to write about a very specific aspect of well-being: freedom from fear of sharing one’s ideas.
In researching my book, QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, I met a scientist performing groundbreaking work on social anxiety disorder. A charming, articulate man, he confided that his interest in the field came from his own struggles with shyness. But he asked me not to use his name in my book. “Not everyone is as comfortable as you are exposing their true feelings,” he said.
To which I could only say “ha.”
I am not a natural self-discloser at all. It took me thirty years to realize my childhood dream of becoming a writer, partly because I was afraid to write about personal things — yet these were the subjects I was drawn to.
Eventually my drive to write grew stronger than my fear, and I’ve never looked back. I still envy friends who write about topics like science or politics. They can show up at dinner parties without everyone announcing: “Here comes the introvert!”
But you get used to it. And really, it’s a small price to pay for the freedom to say what you think.
I tell you all this because I hear often from people who burst with ideas but decline to share them, because they dislike the spotlight. Maybe you fear others judging you and your work. Or you’re uncomfortable with self-promotion. Or perhaps you’re afraid of failure, or of success.
So many fears, so many ideas worth sharing. What to do? Here are eight ideas to help you power through these disabling emotions.
1. Know that you’re in good company. People have always had to put themselves out there. We tend to think that in the good old days, no one had to self-promote the way we do today. True; but if they wanted to share, or lead, or create, they had to go public with their thoughts, too. And this has always been scary. Darwin waited THIRTY-FOUR years to publish his idea that humans evolved from monkeys. Scholars call this “Darwin’s Delay,” and many believe it was due to his fear of how others would judge his heretical theory.
2. When it comes to social media, think self-expression, not self-promotion. Blogging and tweeting, if practiced properly, feel more like a creative project than an exercise in self-disclosure, even though of course they are both. They also don’t require the in-person social multi-tasking that many people find so exhausting.
3. Coffee will deliver you from self-doubt. It gets you excited about new ideas and helps you ignore the chorus of judgers inside your head. It propels your thinking and helps you make connections between seemingly unrelated things. Hence, the saying that “a mathematician is a device for turning coffee into theorems.”
4. Train yourself to associate idea generation with pleasure. I usually work at a cozy café table and indulge in a chocolate muffin. I would probably be five pounds lighter without this habit, but I don’t care. By now I so associate writing and idea generation with pleasure, that I love it even when I don’t have a café table handy.
5. Work alone (or “alone together” — for example, sitting by yourself in a coffee shop or library). There’s a lot of nonsense floating around these days about how creativity is a fundamentally social act. Ignore this. Yes, creativity is social in the sense that we all stand on the shoulders of those who came before us; yes, we must share and advance ideas (that’s the whole point of this article); yes, collaboration is a powerful and beautiful thing (think Lennon and McCartney, or the Madonna and child.)
But for many people, the creative thinking process is a solo act. One of my all-time favorite quotes comes from William Whyte’s The Organization Man:
“The most misguided attempt at false collectivization is the current attempt to see the group as a creative vehicle… People very rarely think in groups; they talk together, they exchange information, they adjudicate, they make compromises. But they do not think; they do not create.”
6. Work at night when your cortisol levels are lower. When I was a child at summer camp, I noticed a strange pattern. I was horribly homesick first thing in the morning, often waking up with a stomach ache. But as the day wore on, the homesickness faded. By nighttime, I was carefree and having a grand time.
Each night, I was sure I’d wake up the next morning feeling just as strong. But the homesickness always came back.
Back then I couldn’t explain this pattern, but I can now. Cortisol. Cortisol is a stress hormone, and it peaks in the morning and steadily dissipates throughout the day. For some of us, these peaks and falls are especially pronounced.
So while you probably think most clearly first thing in the morning, you may be at your least inhibited at night. I’ve noticed that interesting turns of phrase and associative leaps come much more easily in the evening hours. And indeed creativity researchers believe that a relaxed brain, a brain that is not in the grip of anxiety or blocked by other psychological barriers, is a more creative brain.
7. Strengthen your backbone, and therefore your confidence, in small steps. Get in the habit of asking yourself where you stand on various questions. When you have firm opinions or a strong sense right or wrong on a given question, savor the feeling. It doesn’t matter what kind of question - it can be how to organize the dishwasher.
The point is to get used to the feeling of having a center, and operating from it. Then, produce more consequential ideas from this same place. You’ll still have doubts, of course -Does it make sense? Will people agree? That’s normal. But you need to have confidence about the underlying purpose of your undertaking.
8. If you need a role model of fearless idea generation and sharing, you really need look no further than Arianna Huffington and her Third Metric mission. She’s not worried about resistance, criticism, or taking on a mission that could, theoretically, fail.
Or maybe she is worried, but she does it nonetheless. And that, really sums it up: be afraid, but do it anyway.
What are your tips for putting your ideas out there fearlessly? I would love to hear!
Susan, this post is one of your most excellent! Maximum content in minimum space.
I echo your thoughts about working best, late in the evening. Phooey to those who want to impose an Early-to-bed-Early-to-rise regimen!
I add that I come up with solutions and “new” ideas best, when lying in bed thinking in a relaxed and non-structured way-either after retiring or after waking up in the morning. (Thankfully I don’t notice higher cortisol detriments before rising.)
P.S. Respectfully, I fear that coffee and muffins may be Satan’s lure!
Thank you for your posts.
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This may sound silly to some people, but I play Sara Bareilles’ song “Brave” and sing it in my head when I am feeling anxious about doing something or being at an event where I will be required to talk to others/strangers. I turned it up in our minivan on the way to school on the day of my 2nd grade daughter’s school play (she had a lead role). I had a feeling that it would help her (she is an introvert too). And I smiled with tears in my eyes as she sang along with the words.
Wow, great list! This is something I’ve been trying to work on - making myself realize that my ideas and outlook are unique and valuable at work and in life. However, not with you on the coffee thing. Feels like the stuff is gonna eat a hole through my stomach. I’ll stick to tea.
Great post. I love the last line-be afraid, but do it anyway - almost exactly the same as the headline of this blog post! https://medium.com/entrepreneurs-corner/cbcb80471f6e
Wow Susan! I heard your Ted Talk, bought your book and just found you online. I am so grateful for you and your message. I will be a better parent to my daughter because I now can put words and understanding around what both she and I are, introverts. I have just starting writing after 38 years of silence and feel liberated! What’s amazing is that your last line “be afraid but do it anyway” is something that I have been saying to my daughters (the oldest one most, now age 9) their entire lives. I actually just wrote something about this too and that adage is in it. I hope it’s okay to share:
Again, thank you for writing. I am so glad you started! Chris
I liked getting in the habit of asking myself where I stand , I would add without having to tell anyone, this gives me the permission to really know where I stand without thinking about what others might think and then I can share it.
I love your work. I am an extreme introvert leading a ministry that fosters contemplative practices and so I am surrounded by those who are naturally introverts. Your writing helps me collaborate (my favorite thing to do) with these amazingly brilliant people who would prefer often to work alone or in quiet.
I am intrigued by your cortisol in the morning information. I have the exact opposite issue and find that my stress levels increase at night when I am alone as apoosed t in the morning when I am preparing to be with people. Do you know if there is a difference in this between introverts and extroverts? Thanks, Laura Beach
Thank you for posting this article. It was informative and showed me somethings I need to re-try. It reinforced that you can share ideas and thoughts but still work alone. Though I’ve spent half of my life worrying about what other people think, this gave me reason to break free from worry.
Thank you for listening.
Seriously, I was going to write a blog post asking extroverts how they do spirituality! I’m so pleased to have happened upon your work, Susan! Here’s what I have to contribute to the conversation: The thing that helped me most in putting my ideas out there was first becoming comfortable with putting my ideas down on paper for myself. I adopted Julia Cameron’s morning pages -Could it be decades ago? And developed a voice, and got to know my voice and trust it. As for social media, I hated it at first, likening it to being at a huge party where everyone was talking at once. Then I realized there are advantages to that for introverts: We can say things out loud without the risk of the whole room stopping talking at once and exposing us. It helps also to notice that some extroverts who blab all over the place aren’t any more clever than we are.
Such a great post (same with your book “Quiet” that I’ve read cover-to-cover non-stop!).
I’m so in love with what you have shared, especially the “cortisol levels are lower at night” as I always get many things done during the late hours and enjoy that time. Your ending is also a strong message for me as well: “be afraid but do it anyway”.
Thank you Susan for reminding me that I need to share more of my thoughts and ideas to the world out there as other people may be benefited from it (same as I have from yours). I’ve been sharing on facebook and I will set up a blog as a start. Also, I will get the book “Thrive” as this is the third time this book came across to me (I have a rule of thumb that I will ACTION on the 3rd message)
You are my real role model. I wish one day I can be able to do what I love which relecting a “real” me and earn enough money so that I can quit my 9 to 5 boring accounting job.
So again, thank you Susan for all your fantastic work.
Susan, I’ve been stumbling across your work the last few months, and each time it really resonates with me. Thank you! So many of your points have left me feeling so comforted, not even realizing that something was exceptionally difficult or different for me. And the cortisol levels are highest in the morning-hello morning anxiety. Thank you for helping to shift my perspective on some of the things I experience.
Great information on the Cortisol stress hormone daily cycle. I might be experiencing this regularly. During the work week I generally wake up at 4 am to 4:30 am, panicked about various things in my work life and I am unable to go back to sleep. When going to sleep in the late evening, I generally fall asleep within 10 minutes of laying down.
The experience of waking after several hours of sleep (and often finding it hard to go back to sleep) is one of general anxiety. The rise and fall of cortisol levels isn’t what is disturbing your sleep. I too have experienced this at times when there were pressing concerns in my life. From what you describe, it’s probably work related and due to your level of anxiety from daily events.
Be inoffensive, don’t irk those with power, don’t let yourself become usable as a
a tool of the unscrupulous. And we must somehow curb extortionists and other dishonest people.
In other words, how you speak up, and speak your mind as a citizen and speak truth to power, I do not know. Achilles heels are searched for, probably created if need be, and exploited to the max. It sucks. (And I would dearly like to know how widespread it is, or if it is still in the proof of concept phase.)
Dear older and wiser
I thought to tell you about Brene Brown and her fascinating studies on shame and vulnerability. I can’t recommend her highly enough. She talks about our ‘shaming culture’ which reminded me of your post. After reading her books I am now aware of resilience and real safe spaces within my own mind and with others.
Loving having found Susan’s work also
Ugly duckling self-talk has taken a serious downgrade. Thank you for the wide variety of research. The suggested practical adjustments this psychological style can affect will provide much healing reflection. But the best is the warm, kind and sympathetic nature I meet in your book.
Bam! This hits right at the center of my being.
Thank you for your courage to share via your work.
Your writing speaks to so many of us who read you.
Loud n Clear.Grateful for people like you Susan Cain.
About my fearless, I have so many special, interesting and discontinous ideas (well , special by myself), I want to share but I don’t dare do that even sharing on social network. I think I need to make sure an idea that must be perfect, complete, and if having some reviews, for one, i can respond or protect it. I’m always scared to exposed my ideas, especially to get comments to build them. I’ve wondered how you can have braveness to meet many other people to discuss about your subjects. Maybe as you said, your drive to write grew stronger than your fear.
About my concentrating, I work most productively when I’m in a café. The crowded in there makes me concentrate entirely on my task with some music themes but I don’t feel stress . if I work at home, a pile of anxious reflects will interrupt my progress. I tried to use many various methods to improve that likes use the inspiring quotes sticked anywhere, put the deadlines by my self, reach out of my hands all thing can be temptations or distributing… but they are only useful for short time. Working at a coffee shop is the most effective measures so far for me.
“I tell you all this because I hear often from people who burst with ideas but decline to share them, because they dislike the spotlight. Maybe you fear others judging you and your work. Or you’re uncomfortable with self-promotion. Or perhaps you’re afraid of failure, or of success.
So many fears, so many ideas worth sharing. What to do? Here are eight ideas to help you power through these disabling emotions.”
This begs the question: Is introversion nothing more than social anxiety?
There are many specific forms of anxiety. Those who fear speaking in public have performance anxiety (stage fright). Those who suffer discomfort in being with other people are considered shy. Those who fear criticism are lacking in assertiveness and lack effective skills to cope with it.
Personally, I don’t consider introversion to be a catch-all categorization for various forms of anxiety. People aren’t born with anxieties. As you detailed in your book, it is likely that introverts do react differently than extroverts from birth, as an innate trait.
All human beings experience psychological problems at some time in their life. No one is immune from them. As you suggested above, many of your readers have fears. Obviously your book attracts a wide audience, many of whom have fears, and it offers them comfort, but it doesn’t alleviate personal anxieties. There is a tendency for some to think or conclude “I have anxiety because I am an introvert”. Chronic anxiety is curable, or at least manageable with psychological techniques. Introversion is not curable however, *because it’s neither a psychological problem nor is it a defect*.
Introversion and anxiety are not synonymous. Introversion is a trait shown as a preference. Introversion is NOT a fear, nor is it fear based.
I’ve always been an extremely opinionated introvert, so I had to find ways to express myself. Art has helped me build more confidence, while role-models and influencers have inspired to share my unique voice with the world.
Thank you for the inspiration!
I loved this post. While I was always told I was articulate from the time I was a child, the idea of writing a book was completely mortifying, and when blogs came around, I felt the same way. WHY would I do that? All of my family members started blogs over 10 years ago, and I was the last to cave to the pressure. Interestingly enough, I gradually developed confidence and loved having a voice to the world in a way that was much less intimidating for an introvert. I cannot imagine life without blogging anymore, and it has been such a way to open myself to the world and vice-versa.
I recently published an ebook about intentional living, and the idea was also terrifying/ mortifying- but it was been such an amazing experience. It’s incredible to find your voice and set aside the fears of what others will thing- I believe we all have something valuable to contribute, and especially introverts.
Thank you for writing this post!
For me, I think preparation is key. When you are prepared, you cover almost every angle that how people might react and that is quite assuring to me because of the confidence it provides.
Also, if you have had one positive experience before, it helps a lot. Because before presenting your ideas to the audience, you could always visualize back to the moment when everything went well. I believe this is a technique known as anchoring whereby you anchor your emotional state to a past positive experience. This should make you feel confident. I have tried it many times before a big presentation and although it does not completely ease my palpitating heart, it does help a little.
I believe everyone feels nervous, but it is about converting that feeling of nervousness into excitement.
The Silent Saunterer
I am an introvert however I have managed to develop more skills that “compensate” this fact.
I am a sales directive, this is a rol that typically is held by extroverts.
Happy to see that we are all flexible enough to find ways to bypass our limitations.
thank you for your inspiration
I appreciate the concept and the simple and accessible presentation of the ideas. The two points that resonated with me most specifically are 7) the notion of having a center from which to build. After struggling with my many thoughts for years but having no idea how to begin to get them out in a coherent manner I realized it was partially from a lack of a core or center belief system back to which most of these ideas can circle. And 8. - yes I am afraid, but just doing it anyway is one of the most freeing experiences. Thank you for your post.
I was introduced to Ms. Cain’s QUIET in a meetup group (meetupdotcom) a year-and-a half-ago. Do you have a network for introverts via the Web site just mentioned? I searched it using the word ‘Quiet’ and the name ‘Susan Cain.’
Thanks so much for your book. I have just finished reading it for the second time. I feel like I have been found. I have always been judged for my introvert qualities and have also judged myself. But now I feel so normal and I feel free. I can see clearly now. I have been sitting on a blog for years now precisely because I am afraid of being judged for my opinions. And being misunderstood. But in my heart I know that the blog will change the world, one person at a time. So am gonna do it anyway.Thanks for your work
I saw the TedTALK last night and have been reading excerpts from this book and I absolutely LOVE how you explain us as introverts. What you wrote about working later when the cortisol levels are down makes so much more sense to me. I didn’t really realize why I seem to be so much more productive with writing and photography later in the day and always when I’m by myself. I’m extremely fortunate that I’m allowed to set my work hours and I tend to start later and work later. I put in more hours than most but also get a ton done as soon as everyone is gone from the office. With no people around, my mind is free to focus and I love that. I have friends who thrive on being with people and needing something to do. I on the other hand have always loved my time alone and doing things by myself. I do love people and enjoy spending time with people but I need my time alone to recharge and to think. Every morning I take about an hour just to be alone in my thoughts. Now that there are laws against using the cell phone while driving, I have an “acceptable” excuse according to those who want me to call them NOT to. I get to drive 40 minutes each way and I cherish that time as well.
Thank you for putting all of this together. Even though I know I am great as I am as an introvert, I appreciate the outside acceptance of who I am as well. Thank you!
I just saw your TED talk about Introverts. It made me happy an made me buy your book.
This way I hope that I can learn more about me, introverts an maybe be able to explain to my friends, why I am who I am.
My mother actually belived that she had done something wrong, when I grew up. Because of all the time I spent alone.
Yesterday I read a post you had written that appeared in my FB newsfeed. It was a testimony of an educator that made modifications to her teaching experience in an effort to be more inclusive or attentive to the needs of her introvert students.
Prior to reading that, I had been wanting to reach out to local educators (teachers, principals, superintendents, etc) to start a conversation about introversion in schools. Admittedly I had been procrastinating. But after reading your post, I am moving forward and am reaching out to local educators and plan to persist in bring this dialogue to the forefront.
In essence, I am putting myself out there.
Thank you for everything.
Go Charita, I am very proud of you! Can you please let me know what happens every step of the way? Eventually the Quiet Revolution will launch a global effort to “quietize” education, and I would love for you to be a part of this.
I will absolutely let you know how things pan out. I will be scouring your websites for info I can use. It’s my way of having you walk me through this. I’m passionate and committed to this process.
I’m so glad I read Charita’s post as I have been thinking of doing the very same thing since your book came out. And I think subconsciously, I’ve been wanting to do this for a very, very long time. That was why I was so, so happy when your book came out. Somebody was finally being brave enough to speak up for us! And after watching your recent youtube video ‘Re:Think 2014 Presentation’ where you mentioned visiting schools and workplaces to spread the message, and after reading this post also, you have inspired me to get out there and just do it.
I am going to a Toasmasters meeting next week, as an observer for the first two or three times, but then I am going to be brave and start taking part myself. I then plan to start off by doing a talk to my work colleagues to get the ball rolling, and then I will hopefully be moving on to local schools and workplaces when my confidence has grown. I suffer with quite severe social anxiety but I am determined to do it anyway.
I have never been more passionate or determined about anything in my whole life, and despite my fears, I feel I must do this. I wish you had been doing this whilst I was growing up, but even though I have endured the bias, judgement and imbalance all throughout my life, along with all the other millions of introverts who have also struggled to just be accepted for who they are, I am grateful for this revolution even happening in my lifetime. And I don’t want to think of all the children who are suffering now simply because of who they are, to have to continue to endure what we all do/have into adulthood.
Thank you so much Susan for giving us introverts a much-needed voice and the push to restore equality and balance. And I would also like to say thank you to Charita also for giving me that final push, knowing that I won’t be doing it alone.
Susan, I will continue to watch your progress. And if you do manage to record your visits to the schools and workplaces I will be using those as my inspiration and guidance, as I want to be as articulate as you to ensure my success.
Claire just pumped me up even more. It’s just confirmation that I am on the right path. I’m looking forward to keeping each other motivated and we may even end up collaborating at some point. Thanks Claire for weighing in on this conversation.
I think that your passion about this subject with overpower your fear of speaking in a public forum and you will become a powerful force in this long overdue effort educate the public on the topic of introversion and the people in that personality spectrum.
Thank you so much for your kind words Charita. I believe you are right that my passion to continue spreading the message will outweigh my fear of public speaking. The more introverts who speak out about this the better, even if it is against our very nature. That should show even more just how determined we are. I see this as an equal rights movement and if we don’t continue to talk about it, there will forever be this imbalance.
It will only take a few (very!) brave people to get things going, but I really believe that things will then start to snowball and that more and more introverts will start to become brave enough to speak up themselves. Susan has shown that it can be done and we can’t let things slip backwards, we need to keep things going forward now. I never dreamed I would see this happen in my lifetime and I’m determined to do all that I can to continue the progression, even if I will only play a very small part.
And on the motivation front, even just reading your first post gave me the kick I also needed to stop procrastinating, and I want to thank you again for that. I think that updating each other on our progress would be very beneficial. And on that very note, have you managed to speak to anyone yet?
I have been babystepping out into the public eye very slowly over the last 5 years. I moved to a larger city, started hosting MeetUps in my home (so I, the introvert, wouldn’t have to leave my home), wrote and published my first book in January 2014 and as of TODAY, started hosting my own online radio show. It is sometimes excruciating to put myself out there, but my readers and audience respond so well! Just about the time I want to retreat into my Hobbit hole, they thank me profusely for the work that I do. Sheesh!
Thank you for writing Quiet! My clients and friends love it!
In what field is your PhD?
Claire. I really haven’t had a Fear of public speaking since I was a young adult and found out that I was pretty good at it. Couple that with passion and I believe I can hold an audience. I have not made personal contact with anyone yet but 2 things have happened. First I mailed a letter out to the School superintendent of my city the other day. Secondly,I am president of my neighborhood association and the other day, my councilman asked if I wanted the Superintendent to attend our meeting on June 23rd, now if that is not added confirmation I don’t know what is. Claire we are a part of this revolution and we will be a part of this history making effort. We need each other to make this happen and I am hopeful that we will keep your fire fueled.
I totally agree Charita. I never thought of it that way. We WILL be making history, and for such a worthy and long overdue cause. This will change people’s lives, even if if may take some time yet. Even this evening (the night before my first foray into Toastmasters!) though I am so nervous, I also feel excited knowing that I’m going to be doing something so important.
And also, as cringey as it sounds, something that I feel I was born to do.I know it probably sounds really corny but I feel like I have found my purpose in life, and ever since Susan’s book came out, I’ve been telling a colleague that one day I will be brave and talk to my local community about it. And that day is almost here!
I actually think my social anxiety has also spurred me on in a way. As being a socially anxious introvert is a double whammy, and so perhaps my lifelong struggle has not been in vain and maybe even happened for this very reason, to make me even more determined than I maybe would have been.
I wish I was at the stage that you are at now but I know I will get there. And it took Susan a ‘year of speaking dangerously’ before she did her Ted Talk and so I know it may take that long, and maybe even longer for me because of my anxiety. Though when I was sixteen (and the shyest person in my whole year) I was voted as having the most relaxed demeanour in my English Oral exam (apparently I didn’t look nervous at all) even though I thought I was going to throw up beforehand, and during! ;-D So that is also helping me. If I could do it then, when I was super shy, then I can do it now. And I am pretty good at appearing confident when I’m not, so that will also go in my favour.
You are someone whose lead I can follow throughout, and it will be so helpful to have the guidance of someone who also has the same goal and who will be going through the same thing, but yet has more experience and confidence than myself. Both yourself and Susan will be a great help to me and to be honest, without seeing your first post, I really doubt I would have had the courage to even consider it.
I’m so happy for you that the Superintendent will be attending your meeting. You’re on your way! I really wish you luck with it and please let me know how it goes. I shall also keep you updated with my Toastmasters experience.
Just one more thing, I had a really funny experience this evening. I was making my dinner and for a split second, I felt totally relaxed and with such a real feeling of total calm. I had a sudden thought that felt so real, it was if it was actually happening. I have been so excited recently since Susan mentioned her own talks, and about what we will be doing also, that I actually believed in that split second that the change had already happened and that I didn’t need to worry anymore because I knew that everyone now understood everything completely, and that there were no more misunderstandings or apprehension. I think it’s because I never thought this would happen, let alone in my lifetime.
It was only a very fleeting moment but it was so real, and I think it was the final push (or sign?) telling me that I have to do this. And if the rest of my life is going to feel like that, then I DO have to do it. I’m sorry, I’m not usually so deep and dramatic on a public forum! ;-D But I am fired up, just like you said. So I will be using that to keep me going.
I’m sorry for rambling on! ;-D But then isn’t that what we introverts do when we’re passionate about something?
Once again, good luck with your meeting and I will have my fingers crossed for you.
Love this Susan, thank you so much for sharing. I feel ease reading this
Susan I know that you are really busy these days, but I also hope that as time is available, you get a chance to see (read) Claire beaming about her transition into a passionate introvert on a mission. Like you, she is totally being an inspiration to me to keep moving. Some would think that I am an Ambivert, but in my mind, I am a bonafide introvert, but likely close to an ambivert.
Claire I agree that this journey is just beginning and will be a long term journey. When I think about the changes that will be made over the next 10 years, I get even more excited. Also like you, I have become so passionate about this that I’m feeling like this is what I’m suppose to be doing as my contribution to this world. I have never felt so strongly about anything. I don’t think this is going to be easy and I may be shunned or discounted along the way, but I’m moving forward and talking to whoever will listen.
As for social anxiety, I have suffered from the same in the past. I used to have very frequent panic attack. I will say again, that I believe your passion will override that anxiety and your passion will compel people to pay attention. I learned in college that I was a pretty good speaker and when I talked, people listen. I’m hoping that’s going to help me bring the topic of introversion to the forefront particularly in education.
I did make another contact and hopefully, I will be speaking at a small business seminar on the topic of Networking for Introverts. I just know that I will “reach” someone in that audience which will be a milestone whether it’s one or one hundred.
You know it’s possible and likely that those split seconds will become minutes, and hours and that will be the real catalyst (along with Toastmasters).
I feel like I’m highjacking Susan’s post. I am hoping that we continue to support one another and that Susan, I am sure, will be our lead (directly or indirectly). By the way, if you are on Facebook, I don’t mind if you connect with me there (https://www.facebook.com/charita.cadenhead).
As for rambling, you know how we are when we’re really excited about something so run with it.