Twelve years ago, I walked into a cafe, laptop in hand, to begin a grand adventure.
My adventure did not involve swords, dragons or golden cups; it didn’t require me to hike the Appalachian trail or steer a boat solo across the world. All I had to do was sip a cappuccino and tap away at my keyboard.
In honor of Arianna Huffington’s marvelous book THRIVE, I want to write about a very specific aspect of well-being: freedom from fear of sharing one’s ideas.
The American obsession with class participation, from a non-American perspective:
Yitang Zhang, admittedly shy, is facing the uncomfortable glare of the spotlight after recently solving one of math’s great problems. Click through for his astounding story.
In the West, passivity is a transgression. To be “passive,” according to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, means to be “acted upon by an external agency.” It also means to be “submissive.” Gandhi himself ultimately rejected the phrase “passive resistance,” which he associated with weakness, preferring satyagraha, the term he coined to mean “firmness in pursuit of truth.”
Hi all — My team is gathering stories for/about introverted kids for a new project. Hoping to connect with kids (between the ages of ten and fifteen) and parents who would be willing to spend a few minutes on the phone sharing their experiences
Happy Holidays, friends! I’d love to personalize and autograph a copy of QUIET for you or to give as a gift.
This is one of the most interesting ideas I’ve come across in a long time, from a New York Times piece by Samuel Scheffler:
Wow. This is an incredible study of personality styles, based on the language that people with different personality traits use in their Facebook posts.
Typically sensitive NY Times essay from the lovely Priscilla Gilman, on her autistic son confronting social expectations of the teen years:
Here are five counter-intuitive pieces of advice, drawn from my own experience.
As a minor key kind of gal, I often wonder:
Why does sad music make me feel so happy?
QUIET: The Power of Introverts In a World That Can’t Stop Talking is missing something,” says Karen Catlin, writer
of “QUIET: The Missing Chapter.”
Great question, Karen, and I love your ideas. Here they are:
Lately, whenever I'm in between novels and psychology books, I end up in Ecclesiastes. I never stop being amazed (and comforted) that humans have been wrestling with the same exact questions for THOUSANDS OF YEARS.
Here's today's passage:
I’ve never understood why everyone is so averse to aging. From what I can tell, most people get calmer and more centered with time.
So I love this video, by Anthony Cerniello, of a woman progressing from infancy to old age — in just five minutes. It’s humane and beautiful and well worth your time:
Would you like to help me curate a Quiet Revolution Pinterest Board full of ideas, insights, and stories about introverts?
What should you Pin to the Board? Here are some suggestions:
◆ Quotes about introversion
◆ Stories featuring introverts
◆ Bios of famous introverts
◆ Studies about introversion
◆ Introverts in the news
Want to help me with the Board? Simply…
Here’s a brief musing I tapped out on my phone last night while reading from the Book of Ecclesiastes: I don’t know why everyone talks about the fear of death. I love life, but I don’t fear death. What I fear is the deaths of the people I love best — because I fear the […]
It seems that the Federal Reserve has managed to offend both women and introverts as they search for a new Chairman, according to this piece by Ezra Klein:
Jane Austen, world renowned English author, had a particular talent for writing developed characters, many of them introverts. Beginning in 2016, 200 years after her novels were published, “good quiet Aunt Jane” — as described by her family and friends who understood her private, introverted nature — will be celebrated, quite publicly, on the reverse of the Bank of England's new 10-pound note.
Mary Anne Radmacher, author, artist and professional speaker, illustrates her personal definition of courage: “Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day, saying: I will try again tomorrow.” ➤ Enjoy more inspirational prints by @Mary Anne Radmacher @ Applied Insight.
Paul English, co-founder of Kayak, on why “no innovation happens with 10 people in a room“: “We’re known for having very small meetings, usually three people. There’s a little clicker for counting people that hangs on the main conference room door. The reason it’s there is to send a message to people that I care […]
Jayne Riew is a lovely friend of mine, and also a brilliant artist. She makes conceptual books and boxes — intimate spaces that explore intense emotional states difficult to express in words alone. Here is a piece that she made for me — and for all the readers of QUIET! It’s called “Be Still.” Here’s […]
Have you ever noticed that some people avoid using question marks in their emails? They will say: “Can you call me to discuss.” Or: “When should we meet for dinner.” I think they’re trying to signal power, but these linguistic bids for dominance never fill me with respect. They just get my back up. Some […]
Recently I received a letter from a reader named “Lily” who describes herself as extremely quiet and shy. Lily is part of a women’s group called the “Super Women Sisterhood” which is comprised of eight very boisterous, extroverted women. When Lily attends the meetings she feels invisible and overwhelmed, and she worries that the women […]
SOCIAL LINKS Tweets about “#BizBkChat” ∽ Can’t think of a question to ask? Watch my conversation with the Founder of Actionable Books, Chris Taylor. It should inspire a question or two!
Dear Friends, Today, a heartwarming love story from Matt and Julia Triplett — who met online via the Quiet Revolution! Hope you enjoy this as much as I did. “One night in early 2012, Matt was reading the book Quiet by Susan Cain, about the joys and struggles of being an introvert in an extroverted world. […]
I loved, loved, loved the movie “Perks of Being a Wallflower,” starring the gorgeously sensitive Emma Watson. And now HERE SHE IS in ROOKIE magazine, declaring that she’s an introvert and a reader of QUIET! Made. My. Day. Here’s the full quote from Emma: “[QUIET] discusses how extroverts in our society are bigged up so […]
Hi friends, I want to introduce you to a friend of mine, Julien Smith, who (a) wrote a famous and fantastic blogpost called The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck (a must-read if, like Julien, you suffer from “caring far too much about offending people, worrying if [you’re] cool enough for them, or asking [yourself] if […]
It was my second week of middle school, and I was terrified about my first science test. I’d spent the last six years in a sheltered, easygoing primary school, and it was frightening to walk the noisy corridor of unfamiliar kids, the science lab looming at the end of the hallway. To cope, I told […]
Hi everyone. Thought you might enjoy this Q and A I did with the Daily Beast — discussing TED talks, Malcolm Gladwell, why I wrote QUIET in a Greenwich Village cafe, advice for aspiring authors, and more… What do you need to have produced/completed in order to feel that you’ve had a productive writing day? […]
Check out this social experiment, from guest blogger Katherine Wakefield — and let us know what you think and whether you’ll participate! I am starting a social experiment. Me, a stranger-danger introvert; yes, me. It happened organically today and went well. As I was checking out at the grocery store, I felt warmth and happiness […]
Not long ago, I discovered Michael Schiller’s terrific Social Introverts Facebook Fan Page. We started corresponding, and I’d love to share the note he sent me about his passion for helping introverts appreciate their own quiet perfection. ~ Susan Hello, Susan. My name is Michael Schiller, and I want you to know that you are […]
*Rich Day, one of this blog’s most active participants, shares a lovely story that’s guaranteed to give you what my mother-in-law calls a “leaky faucet moment.” ~ Susan Both of my daughters, Christine and Shannon, took up the piano, along with all the lessons, the hours of practice, and the nervousness of performing at recitals. […]
Here is “Life of Pi” star Adil Hussain, on what it’s like to work with the quietly inspirational Ang Lee. He is a silent co-musician with an added responsibility of being the conductor of the most complex orchestra. You’ll always feel that he’s only with you, co-creating; but he’s with everybody at the same time, […]
“Donovan Campbell is a decorated military officer and a young Fortune 500 executive whose lessons about leadership and teamwork came the hard way, through three combat deployments—two in Iraq and one in Afghanistan.” ~RHSpeakers.com I recently had the privilege of sharing the stage with Donovan Campbell. And I was struck by his description of true […]
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As many of you know, I’m on a whirlwind book tour for the QUIET paperback. So far I’ve visited NYC, Boston, Chicago, Washington D.C., Kansas City, and Denver. Having now spent many evenings in succession with you, my readers, I would like to tell you about the way you transform a public space, about your […]
As you may know, I’m out on The QUIET Book Tour right now. So far I’ve been in NYC, Chicago, Boston, Denver, Kansas City, Portland, and one other stop that — for purely personal reasons — stands as my favorite appearance of all: My Politics & Prose Bookstore sponsored Q&A at the gorgeous 6th and […]
A few weeks ago, I took my husband to a concert as a surprise. He had no idea where we were going until we got to the box office. His best guess was Ethiopian food, which we’ve both been craving — and this wasn’t entirely off the mark. We spent the evening with Idan Raichel, whose […]
Last week, @TheAtlantic magazine ran a piece called “Introverted Kids Need to Learn to Speak Up at School,” by Jessica Lahey. They have graciously agreed to run my response, which includes five suggestions for how shy kids can be encouraged to speak up for themselves in the classroom. ➤ Help Shy Kids – Don’t Punish Them […]
This is a guest post from Brittany Wood, the courageous author of “The Shyness Project” blog. They called me “the shy one.” That’s it, nothing more. The shy one. For the last 19 years of my life, I’ve heard that I’m shy from peers, teachers, parents – even strangers. What they said made me believe I […]
‘NO MAN IS AN ISLAND’ No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as any manner of thy friends or […]
Oh, the Super Bowl. I am always bemused by Super Bowl Sunday, and not just because I’m indifferent (yes, it’s true, I’m afraid I am) to football. It’s the social ritual of the event that gets me thinking. This past New Year’s Eve I spent the evening curled up on the sofa with my husband. […]
Don’t you love that feeling when you’re so engrossed in a book that you’d rather read it than do anything else? I find this state is not so easy to come by, even for an avid reader like me. So here are some of my favorites in the page-turner category.
Introverts have been changing the world for a long time, from Van Gogh to Charles Darwin to Steve Wozniak. But revolutionary introverts don’t belong only to history. Quiet people innovate, inspire and educate us every day. Here are three inspiring introverts who made the news in 2012. Do you have others to add to the […]
You probably wouldn’t expect me to kick off 2013 by recommending a book about sales, but I’ve found that pretty much everything bestselling author Dan Pink writes is funny and fascinating. So too his just-released book, TO SELL IS HUMAN: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others. This is not a book about sleazy car-dealer sales […]
Hi everyone, happy new year! One of the best side benefits of writing QUIET is having discovered a group of readers who share similar tastes and sensibilities. I’d like to take advantage of this by regularly passing on articles, books, essays, music, podcasts, etc., that have moved me or made me think. Please do the […]
Dear Readers, I have so much to be thankful for this season — because of you. QUIET is showing up on many lists highlighting the best books of the year, and I could not be more grateful. Here’s a look at the good news we’ve just received: • QUIET ranks in the top three of Amazon’s […]
QUIET has received a number of honors in its first year, but this one means the world to me — it’s a semifinalist in the Goodreads Choice Awards for Best Nonfiction! This award is unique because readers (you!) choose the winners. Goodreads nominates 15 books from every genre based on the number of ratings and average […]
1. Are you an introvert or an extrovert? How do other people see you? Gretchen: I can never decide if I’m an introvert or an extrovert. I need a lot of solitude, but I also need a fair amount of social interaction. I like parties, which I find both energizing and draining, and I also […]
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Soft skills — what are they, anyway? And which ones are essential to a successful career? Dan Schawbel has the answer in his new book, Promote Yourself: The New Rules for Career Success.
“How did your mother teach you to dream, and how do you hope to teach your children to dream?” For Mother’s Day, Whitney Johnson, a venture capitalist and popular Harvard Business Review blogger (pictured at left), challenged me to answer these questions. With her new book, Dare, Dream, Do, she’s out to inspire women of all ages to […]
Hi everyone, Here’s the latest news from the QUIET book tour, which continues at its whirlwind pace! 1. QUIET has been on the New York Times bestseller list ever since it debuted in late January. 2. Chris Anderson, the owner of TED, recently tweeted that my TED talk “smashed” all of TED’s previous records for number of […]
I met some really incredible people at last week’s TED conference, and Rabbi David Wolpe was one of them. Here he is on the power of solitude: “When he was a child, the Seer of Lublin (later a famous Hasidic master) used to go off into the woods by himself. When his father, worried, asked him […]
One of the pieces of my recent TED talk that has attracted the most interest is the idea that the world’s major religions feature stories of seekers (Moses, Mohammed, Buddha, Jesus…) who go off, by themselves, to the wilderness, where they have revelations that they then bring back to the community. No solitude, no revelations. […]
Here it is, the latest installment in my Year of Speaking Dangerously — a TED talk in Long Beach, California. Hope you enjoy!
Hi everyone, here’s a guest post from the insightful Ben Dattner, of Dattner Consulting, and author of The Blame Game, on how organizations can harness the strengths of their introverted employees. Do you have other ideas to add? Would love to hear them. In the meantime, here’s Ben: “The fantastic success of Susan Cain’s Quiet […]
Ring the bells that still can ring Forget your perfect offering There is a crack in everything That’s how the light gets in. –Leonard Cohen, from “Anthem”
Ever since I started blogging about introversion a year ago, I’ve received literally thousands of notes from police officers and pastors, from schoolteachers and artists and stay-at-home moms. Here’s one reader’s story that captures the kinds of responses I’ve been getting: “I pursued a promotion at work and was told ‘You’re smart, you have great […]
Devoted as I am to the QUIET Revolution, I must admit that sometimes it is really weird to be constantly seen through the lens of introversion. Wherever I go now, that is the first thing people think about me: Here comes the introvert! Adam McHugh, author of Introverts in the Church, went through a similar […]
Hi everyone, Writing this from the plane — I’m finally returning to my family after a few days on the West Coast. If you were in the San Francisco airport early this morning, I was the one hauling gigantic, bleeping, honking toy garbage trucks through the terminal. The batteries from this trip’s batch of presents […]
A few weeks ago, my friend Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project asked me five questions about happiness. Thought you might like to see my answers. But first, I have some very happy news to share with you. I just found out that QUIET will debut at #4 on the New York Times Bestseller List!!! Thank you, dear readers, […]
The QUIET media blitz continues. Here are some of my latest appearances (and a couple of book reviews): NPR/All Things Considered – Quiet, Please: Unleashing ‘The Power of Introverts’: Audio and a transcript of highlights from my NPR interview. TechCrunch TV – Keen on… Susan Cain: The Power of Introverts My interview with TechCruch’s Andrew Keen. This […]
Oh, the irony of being an introvert on book tour! Yesterday I gave TWENTY-ONE interviews, starting at 6:45 a.m. and concluding at 10 p.m. Today wasn’t much different. This is not an ideal scenario for someone who dislikes the spotlight. But for now, I’m in a state of awe and delight. The QUIET Revolution appears to […]
Hi everyone, Today is launch day! Six years in the making, my book QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, is finally being released into the world. Please join me in the grand unleashing of the QUIET Revolution. To mark the occasion, here are three ways to celebrate: 1) Take […]
Hi everyone, For this week’s reading picks, I’m recommending two poems by Edna St. Vincent Millay. This is Edna week for no particular reason at all. I mean, it’s not her birthday or anything like that. She just had some really good poems. Here’s the first one Recuerdo: We were very tired, we were very […]
“When you lose your respect for the lonely man, the man at his typewriter, or his drawing board, or behind his camera, or just scribbling notes with one of our big black pencils, or working all night on a media plan…. When you forget that the lonely man—and thank God for him—has made the […]
If you liked my (#1 most e-mailed!) New York Times article on the Rise of the New Groupthink, watch the really funny, one-minute version here. *And don’t forget, if you live near NYC: please join me to mark the launch of my book, “QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.” […]
I just published a new New York Times piece on the “Rise of the New Groupthink” (currently the #1 most emailed article!) — arguing that collaboration is in, but is not always conducive to creativity. What do you think? Please discuss here! (The accompanying artwork was done by Andy Rementer at the Times, and […]
Hi everyone, Longtime readers of this blog know that I’ve been crazy about TED talks from the moment I discovered them a few years ago. So I am incredibly honored to announce that I’ve been invited to give a TED talk on introversion this February, at the TED conference in Long Beach, California! To mark […]
Hi everyone, For this weekend, I’d like to share the signs I see everywhere of a QUIET Revolution. Here are three particularly interesting ones, in written form: 1. “The Joy of Quiet,” by Pico Iyer: Wildly popular essay in the New York Times by the always-thoughtful Iyer. 2. “Solitude and Leadership,” by William Deresiewicz: One […]
“Be yourself. Don’t feel you need to mimic the testosterone level of a motivational speaker. You will look and feel fake. Robert Kennedy never tried to copy Martin Luther King’s rhetorical skills. RFK was soft-spoken. He owned that. And as a result, was every bit as affecting as King.” This quote comes from a terrific Harvard […]
Hi everyone, happy new year! Today’s post is very personal, but it has a larger point too. My father was a gastroenterologist and medical school professor in New York City. Every day he would take care of his patients, come home and have dinner with the family, and then, after the rest of us had […]
Hi everyone, For the holiday weekend, here are three music picks to make you step lightly: 1. Me Gustas Tu, by my long-time favorite Manu Chao. If you’ve never heard of Manu Chao before, you’re going to be really thrilled to discover him. 2.”Life is Beautiful,” by the lovely singer-songwriter Amy Correia. 3. The book […]
Here’s the question that comes up every holiday season, sometimes explicitly, often not: “Is there a God?” You already know the answers. Some say yes, others say no, and then we argue about it ceaselessly. But here’s a different way to look at it: through the lens of “basic beliefs.” A basic belief is one […]
Hi everyone, here are this week’s reading and listening suggestions: 1. “The Glory of Oprah,” by Caitlin Flanagan: I realize this pick may surprise you, but Flanagan is one of those writers whose words jump off the page, and this Atlantic magazine essay on Oprah’s life and times is a fascinating read. 2. Schubert’s Fantasy […]
Do you find it easy to mimic other people? Do you ever act friendly to people you dislike? When you’re uncertain how to act in a social situation, do you look to the behavior of others for cues? Do you often seek the advice of your friends to choose movies, books, or music? If you […]
Hi everyone, In place of my usual Friday reading/listening recommendations, this week I’d like to ask for your feedback on the QUIET Online Book Club. We’ve had some terrific Book Club meetings, and I’d like to make this a regular monthly event, on a set day and time that works for as many of you […]
“Nothing has changed the nature of man so much as the loss of silence.” The Swiss philosopher Max Picard said that, and New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd repeated it yesterday in a much-discussed column on the power of silence. She also shares this quote, which I love, from Michel Haznavicius, the director of […]
Before you read on, please take this poll: This question is prompted by a line of research suggesting that introverts, as a group, are not as happy as extroverts. Here is John Zelenski of the Carleton University Happiness Lab, describing some of the data. As a person with a pretty high baseline level of happiness, […]
Reading and Listening Ideas for the Weekend: Creative Thinking, the Children’s Gate, and Storm Large
Hi everyone, Here are this week’s reading and listening picks: 1. Twelve Things You Were Not Taught in School About Creative Thinking, by Michael Michalko: Thought-provoking article. Here’s a sample: Creative thinking is work. …All creative geniuses work passionately hard and produce incredible numbers of ideas, most of which are bad. In fact, more bad poems […]
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?… Your playing small does not serve […]
1. Una Notte a Napoli, by Pink Martini: Music guaranteed to make you happy. If you’re not familiar with Pink Martini, check them out immediately. 13 piece orchestra singing music across many languages and genres. Lush, sophisticated, and presided over by the world’s most unassuming diva, China Forbes (that’s her in the ballgown up top). […]
Hi everyone, I’m excited to report that we just finished shooting a one-minute movie about QUIET. The whole project was spearheaded by my awesome publisher, Crown Publishing. (Crown is ridiculously devoted to the cause of QUIET: The Book, and to the Quiet Revolution in general, and I’m grateful to be working with them.) When Crown […]
Hi everyone, for this weekend’s reading selection, here are five mind-expanding quotes from the great mythologist Joseph Campbell: 1. “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” 2. “Half the people in the world think that the metaphors of their religious traditions, for example, are facts. And the other half contends that […]
Isn’t it strange how deeply we mistrust quiet these days, even though silence and solitude are widely held values in most mythological and spiritual traditions? Here’s one of my favorite examples: the Biblical story of Elijah. Elijah the Prophet is running for his life. He’s just destroyed a cult run by the evil queen Jezebel, […]
Welcome to the new and improved website! I’m very excited about it, because you can now talk to other readers of this site about any topic under the sun.
This post is in honor of the release of writer, storyteller, and comedian John Hodgman’s new book, “That is All” — which is a funny thing, because I haven’t actually read it yet. It’s not available electronically, and my hard copy won’t arrive ’til Tuesday. But if you’ve never read John Hodgman or heard him […]
Well, that’s a mouthful of a blogpost title, but let me explain. Recently, I ran a couple of posts asking for your views on group-work and collaboration. You responded with great passion, and great ideas. Then, last week, I gave a couple of speeches on introversion, one to a business audience and another to a […]
In lieu of reading recommendations this weekend, I want to share the following passage and ask for your reactions. It’s from Eat Pray Love, the memoir by Elizabeth Gilbert, which I’ve just started reading five years after everyone else (I do that with TV shows, too. In this case, I loved Gilbert’s TED talk so […]
Hi everyone, Here are this week’s viewing picks: 1. Teresa Amabile, on the psychology of everyday work life: Harvard Business School professor Amabile is one of the nation’s deepest thinkers on creativity at work. 2. Billy Collins, reading aloud one of his best poems, “The Lanyard“: If you’re a mother, or ever had a mother, you’ll […]
Wow. The last post on group work drew a huge number of thoughtful and passionate comments, most of them critical of the process. But within the criticism, some of you mentioned situations where you do enjoy collaborating, and feel it’s constructive. I thought it would be useful to pinpoint the scenarios when group work works […]
The photo above — which shows students working on one of the “group projects” that have become so ubiquitous in American education — makes me feel very lucky that I am not in school today. Having to work in so large and close a huddle would make life not worth learning. And it takes a […]
Hi everyone, Here are this week’s reading picks: 1.”My Muse was an Apple Computer,” by Gish Jen: another tribute to Steve Jobs, but also a compelling account of the life of a writer. 2. “Betting on the Blind Side,” by Michael Lewis: I’m reading Michael Lewis’ new book, Boomerang, which reminds me of how much […]
Hi everyone, I’ll be giving a teleseminar today on Negotiation Skills, as a guest speaker for the 2011 Virtual Introvert Conference. My co-presenter, Felicia Lee, will be talking about how to form strategic alliances. Here are some of the topics we’ll be addressing: –Five negotiation skills everyone should know –Why introverts make great negotiators –Areas that […]
I just came across this article by Ian Heller on introvert-extrovert partnerships in business and would love to know your opinon. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about these partnerships — I’m convinced they are the way of the future (and to some extent, of the past, as the article points out). Have you been […]
This news comes via Christopher Lane, author of the incredibly well-reported book Shyness: How Normal Behavior Became a Sickness. According to Lane (who heard it from Britain’s Daily Telegraph), the fifth edition of the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-V), due to be released in 2013, will include a definition of social anxiety […]
The following is a guest post from Jessica Tom, author of the forthcoming novel, DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU EAT. Here she writes about the challenge of creating an introverted protagonist. Jessica’s manuscript is currently under revision and will be submitted to editors very soon. Jessica describes herself as a non-anxious introvert. Follow her book’s progress […]
Quick: what’s the #1 quality of a good leader? If you’re like most people, you probably think of intelligence, charisma, self-discipline. In a study by Daniel Ames, a Columbia Business School professor, and Francis Flynn, a professor at Stanford Business School, these were the strengths mentioned most frequently by employees asked to describe their colleagues’ […]
For this week’s picks, I offer you three great reads on the theme of Uncertainty: 1. UNCERTAINTY: Turning Fear and Doubt Into Fuel for Brilliance: This is a terrific new book by my friend Jonathan Fields: thinker, writer, blogger, and mensch. Jonathan tells his own story of uncertainty — how he gave up a generous […]
Hi everyone, we’re discussing People of the Book tonight! I’m going to kick off with a simple question: Did you like the book? Why or why not? Please answer in the Comments section below, and then we’ll take it from there — feel free to add your own questions, observations, and so on. Looking forward […]
…at 8 p.m. EST. We’ll be discussing the fabulous “People of the Book” by Geraldine Brooks. The meeting will be held right here on the blog. I hope you can make it!
Hi everyone, Here are this week’s recommendations: 1. The Rationality Project: One Man’s Quest to Ignore His Gut Instinct, by A.J. Jacobs: I defy you to read this without laughing out loud. 2. How I Know I Love My Wife, by Steven Levitt (of Freakonomics fame): I defy you to read/watch this without tearing up. […]
Seven Public Speaking Tips from Gina Barnett, a Communications Coach For TED Speakers and C-Suite Leaders
My latest step in my Year of Speaking Dangerously was to make an appointment with the lovely Gina Barnett, a respected consultant who works with many CEOs and TED speakers. Gina is a former actor and playwright whose goal is to teach non-actors what actors know about the body and voice. Yesterday was our first […]
not only because it’s our next QUIET Book Club selection (the meeting to discuss it will be on Wed. September 28, at 8 pm EST) but because it’s an incredible read. It’s really six or seven page-turning stories in one, and each is set at a different (tragic) moment in history, from World War II […]
In my book research, I noticed that introverts often spend so much of their lives conforming to extroverted norms that by the time they choose a career, it feels perfectly normal to ignore their own preferences. So here are four questions to help you find work you love: 1. What or whom do you envy? […]
I never cease to be amazed by how different people are. We’re all human. We all rejoice when troubadors come calling, love our children desperately, and secretly believe we’re going to live forever. But then we’re all so different.
Here’s something you don’t know about me. I am crazy about home décor. Actually, even if you lived right next door to me, or in my own house for that matter, you wouldn’t know this, because for the past few years I’ve been pregnant with babies and books and had no time to think about […]
…People of the Book, by Geraldine Brooks. I’m not so surprised by this choice, since I think that many people who are attracted to this blog ARE people of the book (not in the Biblical sense, but in the bibliophilical one). In fact, when my husband and I got married, we made up Hebrew surnames […]
Here’s a guest post for those of you struggling with the question of how to promote yourself and your work (and who isn’t, in an era that seems to call for the constant announcement of one’s own existence?) Adam McHugh, author of the terrific book, Introverts in the Church, has written the below guide to […]
Hi everyone, Here are this weekend’s reading (and viewing) picks: 1. “Being a Man at Blogher,” by Wolf Pascoe: Very funny account of what it’s like to be the lone man at a conference of women bloggers. (Hat tip to RealDelia.com.) 2. Adam Gopnik, on Parisians: Adam Gopnik is one of those writers who is […]
Please Vote for the Next QUIET Online Book Club Selection! (The Next Meeting Will Be Held Right Here on the Blog)
Hi everyone, It’s time to organize the next meeting of the QUIET Online Book Club. The first meeting was really interesting — lots of you joined in to discuss Marilynne Robinson’s GILEAD. I must report that I have since been obsessed with all things Marilynne Robinson — just finished HOME, which is a companion piece […]
Recently, I had the chance to participate in an intimate salon for 65 women leaders of different ages, hosted by the inimitable Jacqueline Novogratz, CEO of the Acumen Fund, and Batool Hassan, a Business Development Manager at Acumen. (This is a photo of Jacqueline, and that’s my left shoulder on the bottom right…) The evening […]
Reading Ideas for the Weekend: Steve Jobs, Young Heretics, and Why Love is the Opposite of Underwear
Hi everyone, Here are this week’s reading picks for the weekend: 1. Glenn Kelman on Steve Jobs, the Poet: “I still remember exactly where I was, standing in a Dolores Street apartment with a cereal bowl in my hand, when [Steve Jobs] came on TV to say a competitor had no poetry. It made me […]
Would you like to read a business book that focuses on the inner life? Then take a look at THE PROGRESS PRINCIPLE: Using Small Wins To Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work, by Harvard Business School professor Teresa Amabile, who is herself an introvert, and known for her pathbreaking work on creativity. Amabile and […]
Do Introverts and Extroverts See Reality Differently? (And What Does This Question Have to Do With Your Relationships?)
“Are Extroverts Ruining Psychologists’ Surveys?” So read the LiveScience headline, in an article describing research findings that extroverts answer survey questions with more extreme responses than introverts do. It doesn’t matter what type of question it is. Whether asked to rate how much they liked a photo of a nature scene, or how disgusted they’d […]
Hi everyone, here are this week’s reading picks for you: 1. “You Become What You Pretend to Be“: Here is a great read on how our behavior influences our attitudes. (Or, as my friend Gretchen Rubin of the Happiness Project would put it, “Act the way you want to feel.”) I use this trick occasionally, […]
Hi everyone, Wanted to report that on Tuesday night, we had a terrific inaugural meeting of the QUIET Online Book Club! I was inspired by how enthusiastically everyone participated, and what useful things you all had to say about “Gilead,” our first book selection. I’ve been thinking about the book differently since hearing your perspectives, […]
Have you ever wished you could eradicate the “ums” and “ahs” right out of your conversation, and especially your public presentations? Turns out those verbal fillers may play an important role in establishing trust, according to this Slate magazine article by Michael Erard: “…”uh” and “um” don’t deserve eradication; there’s no good reason to uproot them. […]
Here are instructions for joining the QUIET book club discussion of Gilead by Marilynne Robinson.