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Re: Thank you thank you thank youFri, 18 Apr 2014 10:24:54 +0000I whole-heartedly agree. I know I am an introvert, but for so long it was a dirty word that needed changing. I have had bosses and family members tell me I need to get out of my shell and grow up!
I am not completely through the book, but feel like so much of what is on these pages fits me like a glove and I am owning it and feeling good about my traits - their not so bad to have!
Thank you Susan for enlightening us and others around us to realize that we are not "wrong" because we think more carefully before we answer and can feel so deeply at times. I am beginning to have a better understanding of who I am and that it really is OK to be me.http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=379.0#postid-1078&guid=1078
Style Does MoveTue, 15 Apr 2014 13:59:35 +0000<blockquote>“In other words, for the Asian negotiators, style counted as well as substance, while the Israelis were more focused on the information being conveyed. They were unmoved by a display of either sympathetic or hostile emotions.”</blockquote>
Excerpt From: Cain, Susan. “Quiet.” Broadway Books, 2013-01-29. iBooks.
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I used to believe that I was unmoved by style. But if you fall into a really hostile environment where everyone treats you that way, believe me you get to move.
P.S. By hostile I don't mean anything coercive, but do mean negative gestural, facial, and verbal expressions. So, it's totally stylish. Think of a situation where you are an unwanted stranger...http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=192.0#postid-1077&guid=1077
Re: severe issues with being introverts | getting "stuck" while thinking in publicMon, 14 Apr 2014 22:45:41 +0000<blockquote><strong>Quote from omid on Feb 1, 2013, 6:19am</strong>
thank you for your reply, i actually tried your suggestions. it only buys me a few seconds. i am fraid it is much deeper than that. it seems i can't think deeply whenever people are talking around me, for instance, brainstorming with people usually doesn't work for me. b/c i feel obligated to listen, where thinking requires me to disconnect from my surrounding.
if anyone has others suggestions, would love to hear it.
I assume you are young, and have never seen Jack Benny on TV. He was on television in his own weekly comedy show long before you were born. He was a master comedian as well as an accomplished musician, and was an absolute master of timing. Picture this comedic scene as he played it: a robber comes up to him with a gun and demands his money. The robber says to him "Your money or your life!" Jack stands there saying nothing. The robber says "C'mon, C'mon, Hurry up! Your money, OR YOUR LIFE!!!" Jack waits at least five seconds before looking at the audience. Then he calmly says "I'm thinking it over".
The comedic situation is funny. But it is also wise.
His response is that of a thinking man. It's also the response of someone who is not intimidated or manipulated into being rushed by anyone.
Next time anyone wants a hurried answer from you, you will remember this scene and realize that you can take whatever amount of time you need or want, before answering them.
You have more power than you realize. You can make them wait. ;-)http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=192.0#postid-1075&guid=1075
Re: severe issues with being introverts | getting "stuck" while thinking in publicMon, 14 Apr 2014 18:37:33 +0000I am much the same way. I can talk about it or I can think about it. Can't do both at the same time.
And the QUESTIONS people ask! Trying to make sense of the question stops me cold most of the time.
"Do you want your milk in a bag?"
<pause, think think>
"No, leave it in the jug, the bags LEAK!"
People complain I'm "too quiet", but when I have something to say it's usually enough to bore the pants off of them. Or shatter their cherished conceptual framework. Some laugh--others get quite angry about it.
Re: Introverts and Physical FitnessWed, 09 Apr 2014 16:02:14 +0000Getting physically fit has been very rewarding in ways that I wouldn't have expected when I was overweight. Your endorphin levels increase and your cognitive performance is better. Doing everything is more effortless and you feel more energetic. But when it comes down to it, for you to flip the switch, you have to care about yourself enough to do it. It is uncomfortable at first, but you will get used to it and probably enjoy it once you do.
If you are interested, I blog about fitness and weight loss is frequently discussed. theredbikiniproject.comhttp://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=221.0#postid-1073&guid=1073
Re: problem making friends?Wed, 09 Apr 2014 04:52:00 +0000Who wants a to take a chance on having a friendship with me? I'm 37 and an introvert female. I'm down to earth and like the simple things in life. http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=357.0#postid-1072&guid=1072
Re: Does the internet make communication easier?Wed, 09 Apr 2014 04:44:35 +0000Hi, for me, in order to be "heard" I start my own thread and go from there. I think that the internet makes communication easier especially for an introvert like me. I am able to express myself better thru writing than talking. http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=377.0#postid-1070&guid=1070
Confused extrovert, married to introvertWed, 09 Apr 2014 04:02:17 +0000I typed this big long message up on a Christian women's board I'm a member of on another website. But I just found this forum and thought maybe I'll find help here...this is a bit long, but I could really use some introvert advice, since I'm pretty much lost on how to deal with something for the first time in my marriage.
My husband is an introvert, through and through, text book introvert. We've been married over 7 years and I've read a ton and educated myself on how to be married to an introvert, as an extrovert. I'm the extrovert, through and through, so there are some things I just don't understand about him. This is rarely a problem for us. We really are a great example of how opposites attract. We love the differences we have and embrace them. I love that he's an introvert and he loves that I'm an extrovert.
Having said that, I think I screwed up today. I'm not sure though. This may be long, but I really am desperate for guidance if you've got the time. We joined a small group at our church a little over a year ago. I, of course, love small group and look forward to it every week. He does not. He joined mainly because he knew I wanted us to and because he knew that Christian fellowship is Biblical and that he needs to step out of his comfort zone in order to grow. Well, about every 6 weeks he gets burnt out and doesn't want to go any more, so he takes a break for a week or two then goes back and is fine for another 6ish weeks. We take summers off and a month off at Christmas, so he looks forward to that. Well, today before small group he confided in me a few of the things that have got him so burnt out about it this time. One of those things was that a particular member has been doing a lot of church bashing lately. This member disagrees with the way money is being spent at our church and has been very vocal about it, saying bad things about our church, about our elders and about our pastor. This doesn't sit too well with me or my husband because we love our church. My husband also grew up in a church that he heard a lot of church bashing and ultimately left church all together for several years as a result of. So, he's a little more sensitive to people bad mouthing the church, because he doesn't want the same thing to happen. I mentioned several times in the conversation that I have no problem saying something to that person and that I am willing to do that for him. He never responded with "no, there's no need for that." Or "yes please do that." He just kind of brushed it off like I didn't say it and went on with the conversation. Well, he didn't go to small group tonight because he said he was burnt out. When I asked if that's what he wanted me to tell them (we're a group of 12 total), he said, "Yeah that's fine. I don't care what they think." So, that's what I did. It's not a secret that he's an introvert. He's discussed to with the group himself several times. He even posted an article on his Facebook today (that he knew everyone in small group would see) about "how to treat an introvert in the church". So when people asked I just said, "He's feeling a little burnt out so he's just taking a night off." Most people just said "OK. We'll tell him hi and we missed him" and moved on. But, the member who had been church bashing asked me specifically, "Did I say something to offend him?" So, I didn't lie. I explained that some of the negative things that had been said about the church were a little off-putting to my husband but that the main reason for his not coming was just that he needed a little break and nothing more. The member pulled me aside as we were leaving and apologized again and asked me to tell my husband he was sorry as well.
So, when I got home, I did that. My husband flipped. He said I should never speak for him, that I'm not his parent, that it was emasculating, that everyone is gonna think he's some idiot who can't fight his own battles now and that he should be able to trust that when he confides in me I'm not gonna go blabbing it to everyone. I reminded him that I mentioned saying something several times and be never told me not to. But he only responded with more anger saying, "But I never asked you to." I also told him that I wasn't going to lie when asked a direct question. He says I should have. Now, he's not speaking to me. I tried pushing him to at least tell me we could talk about it eventually but he ignored me with that too. He ended with, "leave me alone, I don't even want to talk about this any more." And he went to bed. I'm on the couch tonight...to give him space. The best I got was an annoyed "love you" response after I grabbed my pillows and told him, "good night, I love you."
I honestly thought I was doing him a favor by having this conversation for him. He, obviously feels differently. I can see how he feels that I betrayed his trust and confidence by saying something and I truly am sorry for that. It wasn't my intention at all. But at the same time, I don't think it's fair for him to put me in a situation where I have to lie for him either.
We've never gone to bed without settling an argument. So this is a first for me and I'm lost on all of it. I can't figure out if I actually did do something wrong, or if he's just being irrational and angry and needs time to cool down and sort through his thoughts. I'm 100% willing to take the blame if I did something wrong. But, I need him to a) talk to me about it and clearly explain what he feels I did wrong and b) listen to my side about my intentions/confusion so that he can see that my apology is sincere.
Sooo...if anyone actually read this far...got any advice? Are you married to an introvert? Have you dealt with anything like this? Are you an introvert who understands why my husband is mad? Anything would help...because I'm totally lost on this one. http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=160.0#postid-1069&guid=1069
Re: Long solo trip Tue, 08 Apr 2014 18:38:16 +0000When I graduated college, I took a long driving trip, part solo and part not. The trip was a big rectangle across USA and Canada taking 3 and half months and 15,000 miles in a VW bus; 25 states. From San Francisco to Vancouver BC to Calgary across the Canadian Rockies then Montana, Idaho, Wyoming, and across to NYC. All that alone, then the rest with my fiance, south to Florida, and across the south to LA, and back to SF.
It was a great experience.
I also backpacked the Napali Coast of Kawaii alone. I had a great time.http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=293.0#postid-1068&guid=1068
Re: Participation and GradesMon, 07 Apr 2014 09:53:40 +0000"I'm not going to lower your grade or think you don't know the subject for being shy. I just want you to look like your present and paying attention."
All my life I've been an excellent student I always pay attention a follow the class, as far as I remember, only few times I've spoken out loud during a class to ask or share anything... but when I'm asked I'm always able to answer. Moreover, I like studying by myself and I've always found the answers I needed making my own research. That's how I learn! I love being independent and I prefer to work and study on my own, it is a part of me.
And of course, I've always struggled with teachers that think you're not understanding or you're not interested in the topic, and they punish you with lower grades.http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=349.0#postid-1067&guid=1067
Re: How did you get through it?Sat, 05 Apr 2014 14:35:21 +0000 For lectures/discussions/reading in noisy place I now use ear buds of one sort or another to block out that ridiculous and irrelevant chatter- no way around this. I avoided group activities when possible,to avoid more "not-like-the-others" judgement, but that sucked too because I missed out! I lost the chance to interact, to grow past some of that soggy self esteem stuff I'd accumulated. But self preservation and protection was the stronger motivator. Also, with multiple interests and so many books to read, it's easy to say who cares!
Re: Trying to Cure IntroversionWed, 02 Apr 2014 22:23:43 +0000<blockquote><strong>Quote from Sjack88 on Apr 2, 2014, 3:40pm</strong>
Letter to my Fellow Introverts and Controlling Extroverts: Is Introversion Curable?[</blockquote>
I think your lengthy diatribe fits the definition of a manifesto.
Anti-capitalist rants such as this were often delivered decades ago by political dissidents, literally while standing on soapboxes in public parks, such as in Union Square in NY City, during times of political unrest.
Making an overtly political speech might make you feel vindicated personally, <em>but speeches such as this won't help introverts one bit in coping with their daily problems in life.</em>
If you want to be a dissident or a revolutionary, or a malcontent, that's one thing - but being introverted is a separate issue, and there is no connection between being politically motivated and being introverted.
BTW, to answer your question posed, introversion is not "curable", because it isn't a disease.http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=376.0#postid-1065&guid=1065
Trying to Cure IntroversionWed, 02 Apr 2014 15:40:06 +0000Letter to my Fellow Introverts and Controlling Extroverts: Is Introversion Curable?
Hello my fellow introverts, I hope that you are all enjoying whatever book you are reading this week. I came here today to share my thoughts on an experience that every introvert knows to well, the belief that introversion is something that needs to be cured. Similar to many of your situation, the most recent aggression against my introversion came from a person who cares for me deeply and feared my introverted and non-confrontational ways are preventing me from reaching my potential. My specific situation occurred a couple of months ago when my work place workplace supervisor, concerned with preference for solitude asked if I had ever been tested for social anxiety disorder and recommend that I get tested as it would provide me with access to pharmaceutical treatment options. I would like to confirm that unless one counts the myriad of five minutes online surveys and self administered tests, I have never been formally tested for Social Anxiety Disorder. My supervisor thought my introversion was something abnormal, that the core of my personality was detrimental to my opportunities for advancement within our agency and that if it was not cured I would be unhappy for the rest of my working life. This discourse that any deviation from the norm of mental health, whether that be through introversion, lack of confidence or possibly talking to yourself is something holding you back and influencing how other people view you. This discourse builds further to say that the only way to treat this deviation and become your best self is through the use of pharmaceuticals.
This discourse is consistently reinforced by capitalist interests who week to expand the market for their pharmaceutical products, psychiatric circles who find it more economically viable to gloss over a problem as opposed to asking why a specific behavior is deemed problematic. Most importantly this discourse is being reinforced by the mental health service user who passively accepts the notion that there is something wrong with their personality and the only means to fix this is by taking a pill. This is not to say that pharmaceuticals are not useful in treating mental health concerns, but rather they are currently being overused and prescribed to people who do not benefit from using them. In this post I will outline possible manners in which this discourse can be broken down among each shareholder. My possible means to shift this discourse are by no means complete and filled with various contractions. As a result of this I ask others out there to provide alternatives to my solutions as a means to break down this social discourse. So with that being said here we go!
Let’s start at the individual level since that is where this discourse is being reinforced the most. I’m of the belief that if we want people to be accepting of their personality traits and not consistently attempt to change them we must do two things. First of all empower them to celebrate the gift they have been give, and secondly we as a society need to re-conceptualise our notion of ability, which inevitable will have to start at the individual level. Starting with the notion of celebrating the ways in which we deviate from the norm. Sure reading a book at a party is considered deviant behavior, but if you are more interested in that book that what is going on around you then I fail to see a problem. We as introverts need to find the strength to engage in activities that we enjoy, and fit within our strengths. When we reject the rewards that extroverts deem as important like fame and being the center of attention than we create the power to form our own path. As individuals we also need to re-conceptualization how we view ability. I cannot tell you how many times someone asked me what my talents are and I’m stumbled over my words and arrived at the answer that I am a pretty good swimmer. Society rarely views the talents held by introverts including listening skills and creativity beneficial or valuable. So the next time someone asks you what your talents are do not be ashamed to tell them that you can read three hundred words per minute.
Now that I have empowered all my fellow introverts out there it is time to shift away from treating perceived mental illnesses strictly with pharmaceuticals. I have outlined that introversion is not a mental illness that needs to be treated, however now we need to show this to the psychiatric profession. Both those with mental illness and those who have been misdiagnosed need to break up the expert knowledge held by doctors. The first manner in which to achieve this is by patients doing their research before going to the doctor and having someone who has just met you provide a potentially life chancing decision. So before you go see a doctor about your dry mouth in social settings, make sure you research your symptoms beyond Web MD. If a doctor diagnosis you with a form of mental illness make sure you openly ask and if needed demand they provide treatment options other than taking a pill. Demand they tell you about cognitive behavioral and exposure therapy. Work together with them to find an avenue of treatment that will result in recovery, as opposed to the masking of the problem. If patients engage in this behavior we can move away from the fast food model of mental health services where people are treated as quickly and easily as possible.
Now for the big one, achieving systemic change against the exploitative nature of the capitalist system. This is easier said than done considering that people have been fighting against the capitalist system for nearly five hundred years now. The best method to fight against the capitalist system that I can think of not involving having to read all four volumes of Marx’s Das Kapital is through civil and economic disobedience. Let me once again say pharmaceuticals are not inherently bad, and they do provide a series of benefits THOSE WHO NEED THE! However, when we give everyone who has an accelerated heart beat when giving a presentation, and everyone who feels hopeless for a couple of weeks than we are defeating the purpose of pharmaceuticals. If you feel that your strictly taking pills because the company tells you it’s the right thing to do, you need to look for there not so ulterior motives. Capitalism is an economic system, and in order for it to continue it needs to have a constant influx of demand causing growth. If service users see they only asked their doctor about Xanax because their doctor told them to, than I feel many would gradually end their dependence on pharmaceuticals. Like I said there are benefits to pharmaceuticals, but once you have one hundred million people using Prozac on a daily basis there is no market motive for the corporation to develop new treatment options. The best way to demand accountability from a capitalist actor is to stop consuming their product, and for those whose decision to use pharmaceuticals was influenced market forces it’s time to move away from dependence.
So now that we know introversion isn’t something that needs to be cured and possible avenues of resistance in fighting the medicalized model of treating mental illness. I look forward to hearing other possible options form all you good folks on the internet. And of course I cannot finish this post without giving everyone here a little piece of inspiration from Susan Cain so here it goes. Susan Cain writes “The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers -- of persistence, concentration, and insight -- to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems. make art, think deeply”. I hope that all of my fellow introverts will find the right lighting and know that in order for everyone to achieve the right lighting we need to move away from a strictly medical approach in the treatment of mental illness.
Question: How to survive in an extrovert university of applied sciences building?Wed, 02 Apr 2014 02:00:29 +0000In Holland I was studying to become a <a >creative </a> <a > drama </a> <a >therapist</a>. This is a study that can sometimes make you incredibly vulnerable. The fact that we were situated in an extremely extrovert building didn't help at all. Does anyone know a solution?
In my first year, we were in a building that was small, purposed only for our study. We had a garden, you didn't have to communicate a lot to get things done (making a reservation, for rooms or equipment, asking for quiet), and no-one was surprised if you were walking in a monkey suit.
When we moved to <a >the new building </a>, we were mixed with six other studies. Economy, healthcare, education (teachers), management, small business, pedagogy -> and us. We couldn't avoid one another. At all.
The rooms were painted in screaming red. The walls, chairs, couches, tables and lamps were radioactive orange/green/white. From the absolute center of the building you could still see and hear cars, birds, planes - watch strangers pass by. At least two of each walls in a classroom would be made entirely out of ~window~. If there was a sound muffling wall, it would consist of (to the eye) a million minuscule black holes; a vortex where you get painfully lost in.
If I wanted to find my classmates from the first floor, I could just follow the sound of their laughter in the top of the building. People (all who simply wished to) were bashing away on piano's, playing music from laptops; even the scraping of pens was audible.
There was nowhere to hide. There was sound EVERYWHERE. The library had no walls. You could sit there, but only at tables that didn't block anything. You were never alone. Sure, they had created 3 broom closet sized 'concentration rooms'. They had huge glass doors, that would block your oxygen (literally) and the walls were painted bright orange. You could still hear your neighbours and the direct environment, sometimes stopping at your door to look at you, trying to work.
You had to be on friendly, complex communicative terms with at least 3 employees to be able to make reservations or to get other things done.
It was my personal hell. I quit the study. http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=374.0#postid-1063&guid=1063
How do you approach networking? Mon, 31 Mar 2014 14:03:18 +0000Hey everyone!
Recently started reading this blog, and just now posting for the first time. As a fellow introvert, it's taken me quite a while to get comfortable with putting myself in social situations that feel draining, initiating meetings with people, etc to build closer professional relationships.
Though I'm definitely still working on it (who here isn't?!), I've tested and discovered email scripts and strategies that work really well for introverted people in these situations. I'm thinking about packaging up some of this in an online course, but before I go any further with that idea, I wanted to request feedback from this group so I can learn a bit more about your preferences. If you wouldn't mind filling out the 4 question anonymous Google Form below, it would mean a lot to me :)
Kochi rising to a hot residential destinationMon, 31 Mar 2014 08:17:37 +0000Kochi is one among the very few cities in Kerala that has witnessed a lot changes and developments in the last twenty years, the main reason that has tremendously increased the property value of this little stretch of land. Property prices have soared in unpredictably high in the last twenty years, and keep increasing every day, thus making Kochi a hot destination to make profitable investments in real estate, in order to yield good and stable returns. People are not only keen on properties in Kochi, but have also started investing in apartments and flats in some of the best premises in and around the city. With many important developments on the anvil, Kochi will soon become one of most important metro cities in the country, which means, investing in apartments, flats, and <em><strong><a > properties in Kochi </a></strong></em>, will definitely bring in steady profits in the coming days.Industrial developments, the arrival of top IT companies, and the success of domestic businesses have made Kochi rise to the vanguard of top destinations for lucrative real estate dealings. Many people from far-off places have now migrated to Kochi, and made this city their abode. This is one of the main reasons behind the steady increase in demand for apartments, flats and properties in Kochi.
Apart from being a heavenly abode, Kochi is also one among the very few places in Kerala where one can get steady returns from real estate sector, the reason why many people continue to buy flats and apartments in top residential areas, and later give them out for rent or lease. This will help them get a steady income on a monthly basis, while owning a home in one of the fastest growing cities in the state.
Re: OMG -- I work for a narcissistic extrovertFri, 28 Mar 2014 13:44:39 +0000<blockquote><strong>Quote from candace1213 on Mar 28, 2014, 12:00am</strong>
And I am struggling. She hits me time and time again with crazy stuff. </blockquote>
She's your boss. You are paid to do whatever "crazy" stuff your employers want.
She doesn't give me time to think. And now that I've shared I'm an introvert, she is reclassifying it as my having a slow processing speed.</blockquote>
You didn't need to label yourself. It didn't help, did it?
<blockquote>And the narcissism is pushing her into micromanaging I have no idea what she's going to do to me and my co-workers next.</blockquote>
You don't need to know or care what she might do next. You only need to learn to do what you are told to do (as long as it isn't immoral or illegal).
<blockquote>How does an introvert deal with a micromanaging narcissistic extrovert?</blockquote>
I have said many times in this forum that most who are seeking advice here think that their problems in coping with other people are due to having an introverted nature. Being introverted is <em>not</em> a problem, nor is it a deficiency. But a lack of assertiveness or lack of having adequate coping skills to deal with manipulative people IS a problem and is a separate issue, as it is the cause of most people's problems in our human interactions.
To state it emphatically, everyone has psychological problems at some time in their life - <em>but introversion is not the cause of those problems.</em>
Susan's book helps you to understand your innate nature as an introvert. For many, that is an essential first step, the realization that there is nothing wrong with you being an introvert. Unfortunately her book can't provide you with the essential skills to cope with people who are being domineering, pressuring you, voicing cutting remarks, or being emotionally manipulative with you. That requires additional effort to seek out and learn adequate coping skills (AKA assertiveness).
I continue to recommend the best book ever written on the topic of how to become assertive. It is <em>When I Say No I feel Guilty</em> by Manuel Smith, PhD. The book was a huge bestseller when it was published in 1975. Smith is a behavioral psychologist who has written about assertiveness training and desensitization of phobias. His methods are highly effective. It presents several easy to learn concepts that are universally applicable in responding to challenging situations. The book is easy for anyone to read, learn and practice the few skills that are essential.
Among other things this book teaches how to deal with manipulative bosses and co-workers. Among the techniques it teaches is that of inviting criticism and agreeing with your critic. Sounds counter-intuitive, doesn't it? But after you learn how to deal with it, the boss won't be able to "push your buttons" any more.
You will forever be an introvert, as it is an immutable trait that cannot be changed. But being introverted is not a life sentence of being a passive pushover or a 'doormat', nor forever ending up feeling guilty, frustrated or depressed due to not knowing how to respond to aggressive people or challenging situations in daily life. Assertiveness comes naturally to no one; however it is a coping skill that is easily learned.
Buy Dr. Smith's book and apply his method. Once you become an assertive introvert you truly will feel confident, and perhaps even feel "powerful".
And your boss won't be driving you "crazy" any more. ;-)
OMG -- I work for a narcissistic extrovertFri, 28 Mar 2014 00:00:36 +0000And I am struggling. She hits me time and time again with crazy stuff. She doesn't give me time to think. And now that I've shared I'm an introvert, she is reclassifying it as my having a slow processing speed.
And the narcissism is pushing her into micromanaging I have no idea what she's going to do to me and my co-workers next.
How does an introvert deal with a micromanaging narcissistic extrovert? http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=340.0#postid-1059&guid=1059
Re: introvert teacherThu, 27 Mar 2014 23:55:48 +0000<blockquote><strong>Quote from vk2goh on Nov 27, 2013, 8:55am</strong>
What advice would you give to an undergraduate who is studying to become a secondary school mathematics teacher?
Would starting off in one-on-one private tuition, then gradually increasing the class size as confidence increases be a good strategy?
Im also doing Toastmasters as well to improve my self-confidence.</blockquote>
I've only realized in the last two years I am an introvert. And I am a teacher. I teach special ed and math.
Focus on your strengths. I realize that what's made me a good teacher is that I listen. I've had administrators tell me they see students talking in my class whom they've never heard talk before.
Focus on your passion. If you feel passionate about your subject, share that passion.
Focus on caring. Students need to know you care.
Tutoring can be a start, but tutoring a student one-on-one is so different than teaching to a group. http://www.thepowerofintroverts.com/forum/?vasthtmlaction=viewtopic&t=363.0#postid-1058&guid=1058
Re: TravelMon, 24 Mar 2014 14:28:59 +0000I've never studied abroad or traveled with a tour group, but I have lived in situations where alone time doesn't exist. I became very adept at escaping into my own head when everyone else was otherwise occupied. I would spin stories in my head about things completely unrelated to the situation at hand, or I would use one of the usual introverted tricks. I would have a notebook open and pretend to be studying, or really be writing, keep a pair of headphone on me so I could wear them when I didn't want anyone else to talk to me, or just be generally uninteresting in undesirable conversations until whoever was talking to me got bored and left me alone.
On second inspection, this makes me seem like a rather anti-social person :P. Hope it helps.