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New directions
on: Nov 17, 2011, 2:35pm

It was by happy accident that I stumbled upon your website. This past year has been a time for change for me - my kids are in their teens and after being home with them for many years I knew it was time to 'get out there'.

This time frame has also coincided with a 55lb weight loss that has led me to contemplate helping others do the same.

I am currently taking courses to become a personal trainer - this has been nerve-wracking on many levels! I have never been part of this intimidating athletic world, and as a PT I can't count how many times I've read that you need to be 'Outgoing'!!

This is where your website comes in - during my search on the internet for anything that could reassure me that a PT could be a 'quiet' person.

It has been 'good for the soul' to be able to click on a link to one of your many articles - each brings a little peace, and helps me feel that my introverted self is more than ok - so Thank You!

I have come to realize that 'shy' & 'quiet' are very different animals. 'Shy' is about confidence - something I have been working on - and it helps knowing now that 'quiet' is a strength, and being able to listen to a client is an asset as a PT.

I'm looking forward to seeing this forum fill up!

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Re: New directions
on: Nov 17, 2011, 3:16pm

@wfunite: Good luck on this new venture! Everyone has different things they respond to and there are definitely people who will prefer and get more out of having a "quiet" PT who listens. Sometimes, outgoing PT seem a little aggressive and intimidating to me, so that will be a great contrast.

Susan Cain
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Re: New directions
on: Nov 18, 2011, 12:28am

ITA. There's a guy I interviewed and profiled in my book, Jon Berghoff, who talks about this. He's an introvert, award-winning salesman, sales trainer, and personal coach, and he told me that sometimes clients expect him to be more rah rah than he is, but they always find themselves pleasantly surprised at how nice it is to work with someone who really listens and gets them.

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Re: New directions
on: Nov 23, 2011, 12:50pm

I wish you the very best in your new venture. None of the trainers at my gym appear to be introverts but they are all great.

Oddly enough, my reason for my first post being in the Quiet Revolution area was because of something loosely related to this. I may post in a separate topic.

Mild-mannered scientist from Lancashire UK

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Re: New directions
on: May 6, 2012, 10:32pm

Personally, if I was in the position of finding a personal trainer, as an introvert I would completely shy away from those over the top, loud and overly enthusiastic people. Makes me exhausted just thinking about it.

One of the reasons for having a personal trainer would be so one does not have to attend a (sometimes) crowded gym with music booming out of numerous speakers.

The gym I spent years going to, 6 days a week, only played loud music in the aerobics hall.

All my (3) coaches were fellow introverts and very good at their job of quietly coaxing the best out of us. See, all that shouting and insulting military style would see me making a rude gesture before turning on the spot and leaving, and I'd certainly never come back.

So no need to try to become what you are not, the right clients will find their way to your business, you could even make it a selling point!

Former racing cyclist and gym-bunny,


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