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Thank You!
on: Feb 14, 2012, 6:16pm

Got the book as an audio book from Audible. Started listening while my wife was off to work and as I puttered around the house. The dogs must have thought me completely crazy when I got to Chapter 4 (?) and the work place and I'd start bursting out "YES! … YES!!" as I'd pump my fist.

I'm retired now, I worked as a programmer at AT&T where the emphasis had switched from a group with individual responsibilities, to the team where everyone works on everything together. I tried to tell them it was wrong, and basically was told to sit down and shut up.

I feel so vindicated!

thank you so much for this book

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Re: Thank You!
on: Mar 1, 2012, 11:14pm

Susan, thank you so much for writing this book. i have been questioning the messages that came from strong extroverts in my life (mother, ex husband) that there was something wrong with me. your book has pulled it all together for me and it is a liberation. i have now sent the book to my youngest son with an apology for not supporting him more effectively - even when i should have known better because i had a similar childhood - but i was so much in denial and believed that it was something i needed to "cure'. thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Re: Thank You!
on: Mar 14, 2012, 9:03pm


This is an amazing book. I am an INFP and have felt my entire life and career that I do not fit in. I was taught to become more extroverted to survive and to make something of my life.

I have had a great career in the technology field of which over 20 years were in technology sales. I found that when I could call on smaller companies and deal with only a couple of people I did fine but when I had to call on the corporate giants I wanted to run for the hills.

Now I am in the process of reinventing my career and to tailor it more to my personality. I guess after my wife of 30 years passed away I realized how short life is and how we need to really get at the core of why we were put here on Earth. It is difficult to undo all those years but each day on the journey brings new insights and revelations. Your book was a big help in several areas but I think mostly it really helped validate the importance of who we are as introverts.

Thanks Again


I am 60 years old and finally looking at aligning my career according to my introverted needs. I love the process of exploring ideas and creating a new mosaic of a solution. I am looking for ways to earn a living in the consulting, blogging, writing world that would be a good fit. I have a great platform idea that I have been piecing together over the years and would love to use this as my spring board.

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Re: Thank You!
on: Mar 23, 2012, 11:16pm

Well, I have just registered here and wanted to share my thoughts about the book as well. I was introduced to it by Susan's Ted Talk which was featured over at For some reason, the topic caught my attention. Watching it, I recognized many situations she described and was intrigued by her speech.

Quiet is the first book I have purchased in quite a while and so far I don't regret it. icon smile Forum

I haven't finished it yet but it already had a significant effect on me. I was always aware that I'm not the most extroverted person. While I like spending time with my friends, I have always enjoyed activities you perform mostly alone, like reading, drawing or playing computer games. I have always experienced school trips or big parties as unpleasent or stressful.

But at the same time I've always felt like being extroverted is something desirable, not only because of the way our culture propagates this view, but also from my own observations about how easily extroverts seem to be liked or respected by others. I guess I have always been the soft-spoken nice guy, with all the advantages and disadvantages that brings with it.

Reading Quiet gives me a lot of comfort since it makes me aware that introversion is not a lack of something, it does not mean that you are missing skills and should try to acquire them but rather that you have a different set of skills. I really feel that the book helps me become aware of some of my strengths and might keep me from trying to fulfill ideals that don't match my character. So far, it has helped me take another step in my self-discovery. icon smile Forum

Sjaak Overbeeke
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Two kinds of introverts?
on: Mar 25, 2012, 8:18am

Thank you for this wonderful book. It helped me understand the introvert part of me so much better. I would suggest, though, to consider whether there might be two kinds of introverts: the thinking and the feeling introvert. Of course we see thinking-feeling combinations, but the thinking - feeling - doing (= extrovert) triad parallels many other psychological classifications e.g. Plato (epithymia, thymos, logisticon), Pestalozzi (heart, hand, head) and MacLean (brain stem, limbic system and neocortex). The feeling introvert has a tendency towards sensations and emotions, the thinking introvert towards thoughts, images and structures…

trainer, therapist, writer (Dutch) a.o. “Inner drives”

Mariano R
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Re: Thank You! Gracias!
on: Mar 28, 2012, 12:43am

This been a great book, its been a while since I dont have that feeling for try to find any quiet time possible to continue reading a book! The information is good and support by great updated data.

I believe, I am more a kind of ambivert person but totally identified with to introvert situation exposed in the book.

As an architect that has worked all my career desingnig workspaces and now for 6 years in acoustics, this book has given me a very interesting aproach.

In Latin America, we have a lot of people that have not been complety understood and struggle every day with the extrovert way of working.

Gracias, Mariano

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Re: Thank You!
on: Mar 28, 2012, 4:50pm

Mrs. Cain,

Thank you for this timely and entertaining information. It is an encouragement to live fully according to how we are made and a challenge to, in my case, live more gently with those who are made otherwise.



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Re: Thank You!
on: Apr 7, 2012, 3:56pm

Thank you for this book, Susan!

It was an eye opener for me, showing me that there is nothing wrong with me being introvert. I know so many situations and share so many experiences you mentioned in your book… sometimes it felt like my life was the one being described. These are things I was not able to tell my parents when I was growing up, and not to most friends and peers. Everyone was in the "extrovert" mode, if not really feeling it then faking it. And so was I.

To an extent, I still am - my job is such that I am never in my comfort zone, and I also still go to parties I wish I could leave immediately. But a lot because of this book, which puts things in such a sensible context, and with such sensitivity, I am more confident to embark on thinking about which changes to make to be happier, calmer, and not to suppress my potential anymore.

Loved the TED Talk too, so much, actually, that I translated it into my language icon smile Forum

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Re: Thank You!
on: Apr 8, 2012, 10:44am


Thank you so much for your book. After twenty years of leaving parties early - feeling a total failure each time it happened - its been incredibly reassuring and liberating to see this trait as part of the introverted side of my personality rather than confirmation of being socially inept.

This book should be compulsory reading for every teacher and parent.


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Re: Thank You!
on: May 7, 2012, 8:09am

I loved the book. I just wish it had been available 30 years ago when I first started teaching.

Instructor at Baker College of Muskegon, MI.

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